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Advice on ex and contact

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Creeper8 · 10/09/2018 14:01

My ex was violent to me a few times during our relationshipu, I only reported it once. He has MH issues and is known to the police and SS (adult ss I dont have ss involvement) due to his MH. Ive had conflicting advice about contact, will he be allowed contact with our kids in the future?

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Creeper8 · 10/09/2018 16:36

anyone?

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Ellen7262 · 10/09/2018 16:42

@Creeper8 depends if you are comfortable with him having contact. Might be advisable to have it at a contact centre - as long as he isn't a potential threat to the child then he could be allowed contact.

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Creeper8 · 10/09/2018 16:49

Im comfortable with it if he was to get help in the future but my family seem to think he wouldnt be allowed any contact at all.

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Ellen7262 · 10/09/2018 16:53

@Creeper8 it sounds like he wouldn't be allowed one to one contact at his house or something like that - and to be honest by the sounds of it he shouldn't be allowed to either. However in a supervised contact centre it would probably be allowed!

Seniorschoolmum · 10/09/2018 16:55

Unless he has been convicted of violence, I think he’ll be allowed to see them. Why not? It may be supervised to begin with it but you probably know him best. If you are happy and you talk to social services, make them aware and agree initial conditions, it should be ok. Start small and build up gradually.
Will your dcs want to see him?

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Creeper8 · 10/09/2018 16:57

Im happy for unsupervised. And no no conviction.

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StressedToTheMaxx · 10/09/2018 17:06

It would probably be an idea to contact ss to see what they would advise.
Is he wanting contact. I wouldn't push for it and let him take the lead in starting contact.

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Creeper8 · 10/09/2018 17:13

I dont think he wants contact at the moment but in aware that may change as he randomly contacts me now and again.

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