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How to get Dsis partner to leave

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Sassy306 · 10/09/2018 13:40

My dsis has been with her partner for over 10 years, 2 dc 4 and 7. To put it mildly he is a waste of space! He is volatile, controlling, paranoid and extremely emotionally abusive more than 80% of the time.
He smokes weed constantly all day and has never had a job. His only good quality is that so far he has never been violent.

She doesnt want to be with him and has been making this clear for over a year now but he refuses to leave their council house (he is named on the tenancy). Council wont do anything about it as they dont get involved in domestic disputes. She cant afford private rent and the council wont give her another house as she is adequately housed already.

What can she do if anything? She called womans aid and they said they cant help until she leaves. She doesnt want to leave a house she has worked hard to get looking nice but they say its bricks and mortar ( i agree with this) and she should leave. The sad fact is that he doesnt even want the house and will go straight back to his hometown if she finally leaves, he is just refusing to budge as another way of controlling her.

She is helpless and at breaking point so if anyone has any advice on what she can do that would be great.

OP posts:
NotTheFordType · 10/09/2018 13:42

Sounds like you'll probably have need to have her move into yours before the council will give her a home.

Anon90 · 10/09/2018 22:43

She could apply to court for an occupation order, but if she doesn't get one he could stay and up the abuse or even turn physical.

Wonkypalmtree · 10/09/2018 22:50

Couldn’t she move out, wait for him to leave then move back in?

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