Don’t I deserve better?

[Jaffacakes74]

What would you do in my situation pls, I need some clarity...I have been married for 10 years, out of which I have been operated on 3 times ( for severe endometriosis and then breast cancer). I have just finished my treatment, to be told by my husband that he can’t take the constant illness and having to keep our lives going and if I were to fall sick again he doesn’t know if he could be there for me. On one hand , he came with me to all my chemo sessions and has been a rock and I understand it is exhausting and that we are young, life is unfair. But on the other hand I feel insulted that i have to wait for him to decide whether he wants to stay with me or to separate. Surely I deserve better?

I would also wonder if he wants out anyway and is trying to pass the blame on to you, at least in part.

Does this therapist send him bills?

Is he shagging the therapist ?

Crikey. You are the one who’s had cancer and he’s the one seeing all the counsellors and acting all “woe is me”! What about you and your feelings? Cancer is a huge thing. I hope you are getting personal support too. If I was you I’d be very tempted to kick him out and let him taste that new life he so desperately wants. Start to make your own decisions and take the power back. Oh and you absolutely can have more children. A friend of mine used a surrogate and donated eggs and I know lots of people who have done similar. Get rid of the downer of a husband and go see a fertility clinic for your options.