new relationship

[Daisy1998]

I tried online dating and have been seeing someone for a few months. I'm a single parent and have been single for the last 10 years since having my son. I love it just being me and my son and we are so close but i started feeling that I should try and find a relationship as I felt lonely sometimes and my son asks me if he can have a family like his friends. He doesn't see his dad and I know he feels upset about it and sees his friends with a dad and siblings. Now he's 10 I thought it is the right time to try and find a relationship and I met someone through OLD.

I haven't introduced him to my son, he doesn't know about him. I really like the person I am seeing but I've found out I am pregnant. I am so happy living on my own with my son, I'm scared of the massive change of being in a relationship and having to live with them. I feel like i should never of tried dating and I can't cope with having to live with him or be in a relationship. The baby would be very much loved and wanted and my son would be over the moon. I don't want to hurt my boyfriend by ending things with him as I know he wants a child but I am scared of everything changing.

How does your bf feel about it?

OP has told us that she was using contraception. Who are we to assume otherwise? Some of us may not write in a way that gives the fullest picture, or expresses emotions and feelings as clearly as possible.

How about we show a little kindness when giving advice on here - especially when OP's are clearly feeling scared and vulnerable. Some posters write with a fairly judgmental tone. And it would certainly make me think twice about reaching out on here tbh.

@Daisy1998 It sounds like you are feeling a little less panicky now. I agree, I think if you work out for yourself how you would find it to have another baby first. I can tell you love your son very much and that you really want him to be happy...that you are worried about rocking his boat with your new relationship and potential changes. Would you be happy to have another baby without a daddy? To be honest, this is a question we could all ask ourselves! Because who ever knows what is around the corner....

@Daisy1998 I should add, I've just had a baby by myself (long story) and I'm not sure how much you remember (so many mums seem to forget!) but it's reeeeallllly hard! I'm not suggesting you would be on your own, but what is your support network like in general? I've been quite shocked at how hard I've found it at times - and I don't have another child! It amazes me now when I see mums with 2 or more kids. Super mums! And I always considered myself to be a very capable person! Mind you, I am still in the first 2.5 months

Thank you for being so kind motherofpearl19

How's it going @Daisy1998 ?

Thank you for asking motherofpearl19. I've decided not to go ahead with the pregnancy as because I've not known my boyfriend long I don't really know who I would be bringing into my son's life or the baby's life. My son means everything to me and I can't risk losing the stable, happy home he has. Thank you so much for your support and everyone's help.

I'm pleased for you that you have reached a decision that you feel is best for you and your family, and I wish you the very best of luck. I hope you have support in some shape or form...I'm sure it's not the easiest of times for you. Take care!