Am I being unfair to feel angry about this "gift?"

[itsnotlight]

I had an earlier thread but don't know how to link!

Ex ended relationship approx 3 months ago. I did everything I could to keep us together, I was a mess. Haven't spoken since and have significantly moved on - nobody new yet but feeling myself again after being very hurt. My birthday comes and he sends flowers, note saying 'love Simon.'

I text and say thank you. He asks to see them and makes small talk. I ask why he sent them, he says 'why wouldn't I?'

I feel angry about this...he knew how much I wanted to stay together and he ended by "needing his own time to sort himself out." He had treated me so badly and needed to sort his shit out, but he knew how upset I was and how keen I was to stick together through it all rather than have to separate.

To then send these flowers and bat back my question as to why he had done it, with a non-answer/question back seems so shitty and I feel so cross about it. Am I being unfair? He can't even tell me why he did it.

To me it seems to be about keeping you interested for an ego boost, it's something I've experienced a few times unfortunately. He knows he shouldn't have sent them but is playing it down by saying why wouldn't I when he knows how you feel about him.

The best bet is to ignore him, if he wanted to be with you he'd make it happen. I had to learn that the hard way!

You're not being unreasonable. He's doing it to try and keep you hanging on his string.

Block him, delete his number.

I should also add, you're not being unfair what so ever.

The man who did this to me bought me an expensive art print that I loved and wanted to send it to me. I completely refused and wouldn't allow him to because I knew it was meaningless

Booty call.

Pretty much what @SausageSimon says.

I would say it sounds like game playing and testing your reaction by playing down his own actions.

Assuming he’s made no other attempt to be friends in the 3 months since you split?

I don’t think it’s unreasonable you feel angry.

He's being unfair. My ex (who I broke up with because he was a serial cheat) sent me flowers for Valentine's and I remember seeing them when they arrived at work; it was like being kicked in the chest. I feel for you op.

He is keeping his options open by doing this. Be angry with him for that, please...

You've started 2 threads about it today, you've probably spent hours thinking about his motives. A little spark of hope perhaps?

That's why he did it. Don't you dare forget him, he's too important.

Aw bless. It is a booty call gift to open up communication. I'm guessing 'sorting himself out on his own' hasn't resulted in women throwing themselves at his feet like he imagined, hence testing the waters with an old flame. Of course you are pissed off, block this chancer and let him find some other mug.

The woman he left you for is losing interest/too demanding/getting boring so he's got back in contact with you to yank your chain in the hope you come running to him to boost his ego.

Don't contact him again, put him out of your mind. Have a wonderful life!

It’s a good thing it made you angry. That’s a positive

I think he wants you to still be thinking about him. Maybe he thinks of you as a potential partner again in the future.

Sending the flowers and the nonchalant 'why not?' is a shitty way to treat you as he knows how much you fought for him.

Really glad you're moving on. Don't let him back in your head.

Get some secateurs or scissors. cut them all up and put them in the compost bin.

he did it to keep you hanging on. Don't fall for it.

I'd just ignore. He is testing the waters for a booty call. Don't fall for it.

I don't understand why you started a new thread on the same topic, though. The other one wasn't long. Anyway. Good luck. It's best if you move on.

Chop the heads off and send them back to him with a note

'our relationship is as dead as these flowers' and a smiley face. Will mess with his brain.

pretty unanimous!!!

The sending of the cut-off sex organs (of plants) might be symbolic in ways he didn't intend!

Wants you to do the pick me dance which you shouldn't do

He may as well have sent you an attractively beribboned fish hook.

If you answer anything at all, limit yourself to "LOL" and block him.

He's being 'a nice guy' in order to make himself feel better. It's not for you at all. Bin the flowers, buy yourself a nice treat and try to stop thinking about why he did it. keep busy, it'll get easier but please stop texting him as that won't help you.

Oh come on OP, why wouldn't you just reply "Because you're a cunt"?

He's dangling a carrot because he can, because he's a douche. Delete and block. Or photograph the flowers in the bin, send, then block.