Holidays alone - discuss

[Goldilocks3Bears]

Girls night in last night and one of my married friends is going on holiday by herself. Not a girlie trip to marbs or similar - she’s going on her own to France for five days. Her husband also takes the occasional trip on his own.

Aside from the money and childcare aspects, does anyone on here do this and care to share?!

Not yet. I'm planning to do so though.
I go on spa weekends with friends once By ear. Have a city break booked with a friend. Went to Spain for a week 5 years ago with a friend.

However, I'm planning a canary island break alone in January and if that goes Ok a Greece trip in May alone.

I am a bit nervous but no idea why. I am on my own mist of the time any way- why not be somewhere nice!

If you can afford it then I don't see why not. It completely makes sense to me. I've done it in the past

Thank you both - I’m asking in the context of married life and going away without your other half.

Yes. We also go on holiday together, but once every year or 18 months do a few days away alone. I went to Budapest last year and New York this. DH went to Malta last year and Gibraltar this (neither place appeals to me). There is nothing quite like being in a king-sized bed in a hotel far away in a city where you can anticipate doing exactly as you please for a few days. It's bliss.

I would love to go away by myself.... a hotel in France, sit on a balcony with a book.... would love it! At the moment couldn’t justify spending all that money on myself, but maybe one day. But I do think my DH wouldn’t understand why I would want to go away without him....

Yes - I’ve done this in the past. I went to Spain for 3 nights over the May Day bank holiday a couple of years back. DH was fine with this. It was brilliant to just chill and sit and read in the sun. I’d definitely do it again (and would obviously be perfectly happy for DH to go off on his own for a few days).

Totally pro if money/childcare not an issue. DH and I holiday together and separately. Sometimes because we can't both take the requisite leave and sometimes because we want to do different things (me, yoga retreats/art galleries, him cycling). Works for us. And I suspect it does for a lot of people.

I ski, he doesn't. We're in constant contact though.

I did it earlier this year to Spain and left my dh with the kids it was great to get some much needed time to myself after a tough year

Yes we do this, DP goes on some holidays related to his hobby and I take the kids somewhere nice or have the odd weekend away on my own.

We also do holiday together as a family!

We holiday together ( just been) but also have trips apart - I go by myself, or occasionally have taken a DD or gone on art interest breaks in a group ie strangers but with a common interest. DH took himself off on a trip to archeological sites in Egypt a few months ago. He has travelled a lot with work throughout our married life so we are used to a mixture of independence and being together - it’s our normal and I tend to forget this when people talk about being nervous or reluctant to travel by themselves .

Yes, I do it every year and it’s wonderful. With small dc, it’s hard to travel as a family the way I’d like to, so we have a holiday as a family every year (usually 4-5 days in Devon). Then my dh and I each go away separately to do something we want to do. He often goes away with friends, but I’m much happier to explore and relax on my own in peace. Last year I went to Barcelona. This year I have a bf baby who I can’t leave behind, but I’ve been thinking of taking him with me for a weekend in Madrid or Berlin. It’s just nice to have a lie in, eat when you want and be able to go do things without stopping for a playground or a wee constantly.

The restorative power of doing what you alone want or in fact bugger all should never be underestimated.