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My boyfriend hates my sister

21 replies

sober1980 · 09/09/2018 17:03

My boyfriend hates my sister because of a presidential disagreement. They were shouting and etc. Now he hates her and makes negative comments about her every time she calls. He says things like, I know who that is, she walks oddly because of an accident and he even makes fun of that. She is from Texas and he never calls her by her name. He says Texas is calling. I have tried ignoring him but sometimes he crosses the line. No matter what I say or do he wont quit. What the hell is wrong with him. My sister doesn't run him down. How sad.

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another20 · 09/09/2018 17:13

Not nice is he? Bullies and mocks people suffering from a disability.

He has shown you who he is.

No matter what I say or do he wont quit.

So not only does he disrespect your DS - he doesn't hear or respect you.

Whats wrong with him? He is an abusive ass-hole. You will be next. Get rid.

MeanTangerine · 09/09/2018 17:14

Dump him.

Nubian22 · 09/09/2018 17:18

I agree with another get rid of him as he is showing you who he really is. It is only a matter of time until he uses these nasty tactics on you!

I could not date someone who hates my family or close friends like that. It would an instant end to the relationship.

RabbitsAreTasty · 09/09/2018 17:30

What the hell is wrong with you? Why do you want to be with a big bully? Are you Melania perchance?

Are you scared of telling him exactly how far to fuck off?

RabbitsAreTasty · 09/09/2018 17:31

Did they get into a row because she refused to agree with his point of view? What happens when you and he disagree?

safetyfreak · 09/09/2018 17:51

Um dump. Can't believe your putting a man above your sister.

Rebecca36 · 09/09/2018 18:14

Hate is such a big thing, he honestly doesn't sound very pleasant. People often aren't keen on their partner's relatives but they are family o an effort needs to be made. Tell him that firmly and see if he will turn his attitude around.

Very nasty if he makes remarks about how he walks, she can't help it.
He could have an accident and not be able to walk at all!

Politics is really not worth falling out over either.

Nasty man, get rid of him if he doesn't change.

Thatsfuckingshit · 09/09/2018 18:19

I have a similar but slightly different situation.

I met DP through his sister, my best friend. They have fallen out and no longer talk. Both of them know I don't tolerate them chatting shit about the other. Ever. Both of them accept, that I shouldn't be put in the middle and keep their traps shut.

He is a dick.

Whocansay · 09/09/2018 18:42

He mocked your sister's disability? Why the fuck are you still with such an utter cunt?

I judge you a bit for not dumping him immediately after he did that, to be honest.

HeebieJeebies456 · 09/09/2018 19:16

So why are you with this abusive bully?
He doesn't even have any respect for you!

Maelstrop · 09/09/2018 20:11

And you’re with this idiot why?

Original poster
sober1980 · 09/09/2018 20:13

I agree with ALL of you. I get it! Thank You!!

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BackinTimeforTea · 09/09/2018 20:14

Leave him, go and have annice holiday with your sister. I bet he is like this about other things too and has irrational hatreds of other people.

kidsneedfathers · 09/09/2018 21:39

Hi sober! Politics are becoming nasty. Everywhere in the Western world. It is not anymore about how best to solve problems (economic/racial/poverty/foreign threats etc). For some people it is more like a stupid cult that does not suffer blasphemy. It looks as if your partner is one of these people. Your sister and yourself sound more grounded. From the little you said it looks as if he is convinced of his "righteneous" and anyone who is not with him politically is against him and free target to hateful behavior. Not very mature and extremely unpleasant. Maybe take a break and : 1-think about what do you expect from your relationship;2- prepare a list of questions to your partner and raise them to him bit by bit ; you might then have a clearer idea about how much you are willing to put up with him and how much of your sanity and relationship with your sister you are willing to sacrifice for him...good luck!

Original poster
sober1980 · 10/09/2018 03:04

kidsneedfathers..Thank you for your time. I took matters into my hands and I have a plan. NO MORE! Thanks to all of you!!

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overnightangel · 10/09/2018 03:13

What did you decide OP? Agree that anyone mocking your sisters disabilities is a horrendous person

penisbeakers · 10/09/2018 03:57

Dump the wanksock. He sounds horrid.

kidsneedfathers · 10/09/2018 07:02

Good luck!

Original poster
sober1980 · 11/09/2018 01:07

I took care of the problem!! Moving on! Thanks All!!!

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NotTheFordType · 11/09/2018 02:28

OK so which one voted Trump?

PurpleCurtains · 11/09/2018 02:45

My sister was married to a man who didn’t like me. They broke up in the end but it took much longer for me to trust my sister again

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