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AIBU to feel lonely.

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Feelinglikeasome1 · 09/09/2018 12:26

Fiance and I have been together for 6 years and have always had a good relationship, done a lot together including hobbies and holidays. He didn't have many friends and was very reliant on me whereas I have a large social group and family that he often got involved in. Recently finally after me nagging he got into playing sport again and has made some good friends I was so happy he did this as it relieved some of the pressure off me to always include him.
I feel like he can't juggle friends and a relationship I work a lot of hours and days as does he plus he works away in the week but every weekend he seems to be out of the house without me, even when I have days off he will make other plans without me and I won't see him. First of all I was happy as I got to do some things on my own for a change but lately I've felt lonely as I feel there is now no balance and I'm often on my own! AIBU and selfish to feel like this as I'm the one Who persuaded to him to get friends!? Confused

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FlowerpotFairyHouse · 09/09/2018 13:21

I had a similar issue with my ex husband and a previous ex boyfriend.

Was the beginning of the end in both cases.

TooOldForThis67 · 09/09/2018 21:07

It depends how long this new friendship thing has been going on really. I expect that he is all very keen now and wants to join in everything so as not to be left out. Probably, once he feels established in his new 'group' he won't feel the necessity to join in everything? And, from the sound of things, it's all new to him. I'd think that as long as he doesn't pass you over on important things then let him get on with it or maybe suggest every other w/e. I don't think you are being unreasonable.

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