Need answers quick

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Just went out with a friend. Explained me and Dh have not had sex once for 1 year. She suggested after being out to just try it on really a lot!! (He often refuses and it makes me feel bad - however I’m trying to be understanding too) I’m willing! But come home and he is soundo, if I try it on am I being as bad as the partners that try it on thick when they have been out drinking? I don’t know what to do ?’

Leave him alone.

Do you mean he’s asleep?

If so then leave him be!

If you’re not happy with parts of your relationship then have a grown up conversation in the cold light of day when you’re both awake.

I would be very bloody annoyed if my husband woke me up to chance his arm at a shag. Especially if he was rolling in drunk having been discussing issues in our relationship with a friend

What is soundo?

I say go for it. Unless he’s the type to get annoyed if woken up.

Fair enough. Why I needed a second opinion. I left him alone. We have talked and talked. He says there is nothing wrong he loves me. I love him too. But it’s sooo hard to not be in an intamate relationship. Despite multiple discussions it’s the first time I spoke out loud about it tonight. Also first time ive been out on my own without kids or him in year, hence the meaningful discussion. I didn’t mean for it all to come out just happened. It’s hard to feel unwanted intimately.

Nearly everyone gets annoyed at being woken up.

She’s already said she’s tried it on and been rejected. Doing it again while he’s asleep is a ragingly stupid bloody idea.

They haven’t had sex for a year. Now is not the time to try and address this.

X post. OP that sounds awful and I’m sorry, it will make you deeply resentful, lonely and miserable if it continues.

Have you asked if he’s happy to be celibate for the rest of his life? It’s no way to live when one person’s not happy and the other one has unilaterally taken a physical relationship off the table.

What were things like before it stopped a year ago?

I’m not going to, I instinctively felt it was a bad idea. Hence posting first. I just wish to feel wanted. Being drunk about this is not a good idea. I feel so lonely in a house full of people

I don’t know what happened a year ago, but things have changed I love my Dh. I honestly believe he loves me. But he doesn’t want me in that way I know that and he does everything he can to show me that he doesn’t want me intimately, I feel so sad tonight about it. I’m sure once alcohol has warn off I’ll be more rationale about it all.