Thinking about ending my relationship

[BabyKoala4914]

Hi guys, i need advice,, I'm in a situation where i don't know if i should end my relationship with my OH, we've been together 3 and a half years and have a 19 month old son, and lately i just feel like i can't take much more of his crap, we've been in money struggles the past few months, and just managing to get buy, and yet he keeps spending money we need on computer games that isn't needed as he has loads he doesn't play, and lately he keeps blaming me for stuff that isn't my fault, or is just being downright nasty and disrespectful.. i told him that i was thinking on either leavinh or taking a break and all he did was shrug amd say its up to you, lile he doesn't even care, i really don't know what to do

He shrugged and said it's up to you?

It's up to you.

How are you sorted for accommodation, childcare and earnings when you leave?

OP, in the nicest possible way, you do know what to do.

Sounds like he not bothered at all hun but I bet if you left he would be. Its like he think you making an empty threat so he just being a typical man & saying it don't bother him n putting a front on. Do you think you just going through a rough patch or is the love not there no more? You got to add up all the factors before you make a big step like leaving him. Hope you do what's right for you and your child hun whatever that may be as everybody deserves to be happy!

If i did leave him i can move back to my dads, i know he would be fine with it, and I'm starting a new job soon which is decent money.

And my SIL said that he would regret it if he let me go, but even she was shocked how he was speaking to me and had a go at him, and she said not to make any decisions until I've started mt job, as i have to stay at my dads for a couple of weeks for training for job, but whenever i think of things, i believe i would be better off leaving, i still love him but i feel like it shouldn't just be me making an effort all the time

He obviously doesn't care, so why should you? Go and find someone who does! Like you say, it shouldn't be you making the effort all the time.

It's up to you so you walk your butt straight out that door. Whether it be temporary to give him a wake up call or permanent, he is not fighting for your relationship and you deserve better than a halfway commitment to you and your child.

Don't settle for poor treatment. By staying in the relationship ...it's giving him the message you accept it.

You're worth more.

I think you should give it another try talking to him. As moving to your dad’s is drastic action and is it best for you to move out? Or should he? If you’ve only mentioned it to him once and given him another chance

Thanks for the replies

I've tried talking to him a few times, he just says I've clearly made my mind up as i keep bringing it up, when all I've done it told him how i felt, what I'm thinking and if i ask how he feels and if he is happy he either ignores it or makes an excuse not to answer.

If i told him to move out he would refuse, and say that because he's the one who has paid for most of the rent, why should he leave..

Personally I wouldn't entertain his crap focus on you & your child if he guna keep being like that!