AIBU to think there should be a directory of cheats /abusers

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Just that really , a nice web page layed out listing all the shit heads alphebitically. It would save single women so much time and hassle.

Aslong as there is a list of abusive women aswell.

Just assume everyone is cheating. It's normal to cheat now. It used to be normal not to cheat .

Absolutely 100% there should. Would have saved me a lot of heartache

I’ve often wondered why people don’t post ‘name and shame’ threads on here
Or post clues eg if your husband is an accountant in Glasgow with the initials XX then he’s not working late he’s at a hotel
NOTE the above example is made up

@WhatFreshHellisCis omg yes! Keep it in the “classics” or something 😂

... now think that through to its end taking into account human nature through history ...

Wouldn’t work for many reasons, but I get the reasoning behind it. I know so many men who’ve cheated on every girlfriend they’ve ever had. Sometimes the ex will tell you the truth... if she’s willing to speak to you and she’s truly over him and doesn’t have an axe to grind.

I’d prefer to live in a world where reasonable thresholds of evidence have to be accumulated before we publicly and officially damage people.

Also, cheating isn’t actually a crime. And the reason there’s more of it now is because social shame and stigmatisation of people who deviate from the norm is, thankfully, much reduced.

Fear of being ostracised is what kept people unhappily married, or in the closet.

Social liberalism has many facets, but I think most would agree the good outweighs the perhaps unintended side effects.

Surely its just simpler to assume everyone is not monogamous?

Cheats don't cheat by themselves. Surely the person who engages with this behaviour should be equally named and shamed.

@fruitshot that’s an interesting concept , I like it

Good idea Fruitshot, assume LITERALLY EVERYONE is cheating.

Let us know how that conversation with your mum goes

I duno about anyone else but I can’t be the only person on the planet that hasn’t ever cheated on a partner 😂

There's a website actually. It relies on the betrayed spouses providing info ...

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.dailystar.co.uk/news/latest-news/638465/cheaters-homewreckers-exposed-adultery-websites/amp

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I doubt that it would go both ways as that would be slut shaming or abuse.

Calm down @NotTheFordType it was only an observation...

Not too sure what my mum has to do with any of it though..

I'd add one if my exes to the list, he also cheated on his previous girlfriend and I suspect will now be cheating on his wife! He ought to be on 'the list'

What would the repercussions be if say someone posted the cheaters name on here?

I cheated on an ex boyfriend when I was young and stupid. Should I be on the list?

I've been faithful to DH for the last 21 years.

What would the repercussions be if say someone posted the cheaters name on here?

I'm guessing the moderators would delete the post and ban you.

Of course OPs idea is just terrible. Even if you think a cheater/abuser should be given a public scarlet letter like this, the possibility of men being falsely accused is very real.

Some people cheat because they can. Others because they're unhappy with their situation and wouldn't do it if they were happy.

Flaming people for cheating is a pointless activity and rather we should provide support for people to enable them to leave relationships that aren't working so neither partner gets to that point.

Obviously the serial cheaters are another case entirely

It wouldn't matter, there'd still be plenty of women willing to have a relationship with an areshole.

If you haven’t guessed already this thread was started tongue in cheek 😂 although personally I would love it

I've never cheated on anyone, I'm not sure there's more cheating nowadays just that it's done differently, so in the past he 'worked late' but was wining and dining his secretary whilst wife was at home as a housewife, now he 'works late' but us meeting a tinder hook up.

Of course women cheat too. I like to think that if I ever met my 'soul mate' then he wouldn't cheat but it hasn't happened yet.

I've seen one 😁. It was USA based though. It was actually quite funny "y'all need to avoid this dirty, dirty man!" Can't remember the name though. Was years ago that I saw it.