I fancied the pants off him when we first met and it was great, seems the split has ruined what we had
I was in a relationship with someone. After a year we split up because of some issues that seemed insurmountable - we tried being friends and I genuinely thought all sexual attraction had gone. He asked me to try again and I couldn't.
We were such close friends though. He was still my favourite person and hanging out was great. I'd not stopped loving him but I had stopped fancying him.
Then he was round at mine one evening a couple of months ago and we were watching a film and, out of nowhere, the feelings all came flooding back. It all just felt so natural and I'm back to fancying the pants off him. That's never happened before.
Would it be worth talking to him, taking it right back to square one and getting to know each other again? Without the pressure of sex?
It might be that the ship has sailed in that respect but it might be worth considering.
In my case, neither of us was really in the right headspace for a relationship before - he'd been single for 4 years, and a bit stuck in his ways, and I was enjoying being single and quietly resentful of giving it up but we couldn't not be together. I've never resumed a dead relationship before (and have quite strong feelings that you shouldn't do it!) but it feels, and is, so much better this time round.
Oh and I did have sex with someone else and developed a crush on someone else totally inappropriate. He also 'fell' for someone else in that time but we were both just dealing with our feelings for each other and the relationship ending. I don't know how far his 'thing' went and he doesn't know about mine. I think it's better that way because it doesn't really matter.