Feeling lost

[wtf2015]

Arghhhh I've been seeing this guy for 5 weeks.... it was intense from the start and we supposedly fell in love far too quickly. Now I'm not sure.... he's is mid divorce. I am 3 years out of emotionally abusive marriage. Something isn't right but can't put my finger on it and thought you wise lot would know. He is lovely, it's not him.

Ketso
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While I’m here...
OP, you’re not in love with this guy, it’s been 5 weeks!
If you’re not sure, slow things right down - no need to rush.
Are you sure he is mid divorce? Maybe there are things that are making you uneasy in that regard?

Trust your instincts, OP.

Slowly, slowly, OP. Maybe there is something wrong ...only time will tell

OP my recent experience of this didn't end that well. I recently ended things with a guy I had been seeing for 7 months. He was SO intense from the beginning. Declaring his feelings for me very early on, messaging all the time etc. Turned out he had some serious issues (alcohol being one) and this 'full on' behaviour was his desperation to be with someone to help with his issues.
Read up on 'Love bombing'.

You might have been 'love bombed'.

I'd be careful as it's common for people who have experienced abuse in relationships to be drawn into further abusive relationships. You kinda need to reset your boundaries as it's what's familiar and feels like love. You might benefit from doing the freedom programme?

Tbh in five weeks, it's most likely infatuation - you don't know the guy.

To be honest, I'm five weeks, you might just have the fanny gallops. Nothing wrong with that! Don't agonise over it - just enjoy the rush of feelings. It might turn into lasting love, it might not. Either is okay. But the fanny gallops don't come along every day

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Wtf are fannygallops😂

Well that all turned to shit.... feeling so used and stupid. Why did I trust his feelings for me were true?

Oh dear wtf2015 on the other hand, proof that you need to heed your gut instincts!

Sorry to hear it. Perhaps look at doing the Freedom programme?

Not even sure why it ended.... he apparently was scared. I want to hang on to the thought that it will change but a bit of me thinks just let it and him go. Feel sick.

Oh that old line - don't chase him. And if he comes back with some woe-is-me explanation of how he's been hurt before or it's so good between you it's scared him, but he wants to try, but you'll have to understand sometimes he'll run away, don't take him back, fgs.

I'm blaming myself and trying to work out how to get him back. I had huge anxiety attack and reckon it scared him away.