So my dh is a real people pleaser.
He will never say no to others requests even if it puts me and dc at a disadvantage.
He did this in a big way recently in terms of giving someone I dont like a substantial amount of money then lied about doing it which led to us having a massive row with him packing a bag and moving out. He insists that he knows he messed up but the person needed help so doesnt see a problem even though his family members have told him it was stupid and needs to fix the situation. My parents wont talk to him at all.
Hes now decided our disagreement is a sign that every part of our 10 year marriage is wrong and we would be better of apart. over the past week hes changed his mind about this repeatedly but only when we talk and I say I dont want it to end but will live with it ending if thats what he wants.
Part of me thinks hes just embarrased and grandstanding but the other part makes me think he really does want to walk away but just doesnt want to hurt me(people pleasing).
I should add our relationship isnt perfect but up untill this we were ticking along fine and he said he had been happy.
Im just so tired of it all and dont know how to handle it anymore or sleep.