AIBU to be annoyed at DH

[trindmania]

repost as new here and think I posted in wrong area.

I work in the same place as DH and I am finding it annoying that he is being so friendly with a co worker who has behaved inappropriately towards him.
She is younger and flirts with him and has told him she fancied him once, then hugely apologised afterwards and asked him to forget it. I personally feel he should totally avoid her at work but he is still friendly and chatty as ever as if it never happened!
AIBU to think he should not have 'forgotten' that it happened and be avoiding her!

YANBU. There’s clear blue water between civil/professional and friendly/chatty.

What does he say when you tell him how you feel?

That I am being silly and she is young and no threat to our marriage!

But it bothers me! I don't think he gets it at all.

Are there any hot men there you can flirt with? Fight fire with fire op.
He needs to see how it makes him feel.

Not really my style!

I'd suggest he raises her behaviour as inappropriate with HR, and asks that they give her a quiet word.

He doesn't want to!

I don't know whether I should try and force him to or just leave it.

It really upsets me but don't know if I'm over reacting when he's just trying to be a nice guy or if I'm perfectly entitled to my feelings and he's being out of order!

I don't think him being chatty and friendly to her in work is a problem, especially if he is like that with every other co worker?

She crossed a line, not him so I'd not punish him for her actions; just keep an eye on it but from what you have written I don't see what he has done wrong.

Totally see why it would get your goat but tbh if you two are a strong couple, a young daft girl trying to flirt with him shouldn't be a threat.

@Doingreat great advice , are you 14?

I’m sorry this is really tough. If they work together he simply can’t avoid her. That said, he should be able to be polite, professional and to do his job without being overly friendly with her. However, you can’t police what he does at work and you have no way of knowing what he’s actually like with her. So it comes down to whether or not you trust him really...

If it were me, I'd have words with the woman

@overnightangel
Do you have anything useful to say to the op? Or just wanted to have a go at me?

My suggestion was tongue in cheek. Lighten up, love.

@Doingreat
My advice would be to trust my partner as he’s done nothing wrong and is in a professional environment, and not great the woman in question any differently to other colleagues..... “Love” (cringe)

@overnightangel why didn't you give op that advice the first time instead of having a dig at me? People like you baffle me. Coming on a thread to respond to a response. Very passive aggressive.

@Doingreat and calling someone “love” isn’t passive aggressive?
Anyway you’ve derailed enough, laters

Only one way to settle this...

@overnightangel nope, calling you love wasn't being passive aggressive. It was intended to be patronising...

YOU have derailed op's thread and owe her an apology.

@YouAlwaysTry

Bring it on 😂

YouAlwaysTry

'Only one way to settle this...'

This is why I love Mumsnet

Sorry op.

Sorry @trindmania
As you were ... 😂

Anyway op. Your dh telling you she's young is not a great defence.
Seriously, he needs to try better than that.

Sounds like he's very flattered and enjoys the flirtation...