Is it normal to feel numb towards partner

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Just that, really. I’m not even sure why. We’ve been together 4 years and have two DS together. I love him. But I just feel numb towards him. It started yesterday.

Has anyone ever felt this before? Not sure exactly what it is that’s making me feel this way or what I’m feeling.

Sorry to be so confusing.

I had this with my ex but it was because I was depressed and truth be told, I didn't love him anymore but was in denial.

It sounds like you might be struggling emotionally. Maybe consider talking to a counsellor to get to the root of these feelings or lack of xx

I've been thinking of going to a counsellor for a while, in all honesty, due to my PND making a small appearance every now and then, plus I'm not 100% happy with life

It's never really affected our relationship like this before and that sudden feeling of numbness has left me very confused

If it only happened yesterday, keep an eye on it. Moods can change. It could even be that he's the 'outlet' for your change in mood rather than it being about him. If the feeling persists, then it could be something changing in your relationship and to pursue further. It happens

Yeah agree with the poster above, if it was only yesterday I wouldn't look at it as some massive issue unless it doesn't pass, it probably will

Thank you everyone. It's good to know it's nothing massive 😊 I'll see how it goes though

Whether your DP is a wonderful person, or a complete arse, it's worth bearing in mind that the numbness is yours. In other words, it indicates something that's going on inside first, and the best way to deal with it is to look inside at what that might be. I think counselling could be a really good option.

Numbness is usually a defence mechanism that protects us from certain feelings. Those feelings may not necessarily have their origin in the present, but may be triggered by something in the present. Once you're able to get that flow back, then it's easier to identify the cause.

I hope this makes sense!

All the best

Number of things to look at
PND can cause shallow affect, as can generalised depression
Anti depressants can make you feel very flat when they kick in
Your partner doing or saying something can cause you to freeze your feelings towards them to protect yourself physically or emotionally

In my case I went numb to my ex when I suddenly realised "All he does is sit on the fucking sofa playing PS3 and asking me to sub him £10 so he can buy fags"

(TBF he did work full time as did I but he certainly put less work in around the house than I did)

Afist and notthe that makes perfect sense. I have felt lonely and distant from him lately, even though I try. He came home last night was on his phone the entire evening, and then wanted sex. I consented but for the first time I didn't enjoy it and would've rather been anywhere else.

So maybe that's what caused the numbness. The fact he ignored me.

It happens OP (happened to me as it happens). I spent some time feeling as though I was on another planet. Of course I was depressed.

I really hope you feel better soon, do avail yourself of any help available and be up front with your partner about how you feel and don't feel.

Rebecca thank you. I'm going to tell him how I feel when he gets home. Hopefully he won't take it badly

@iwearshortshorts good luck! His behaviour sounds awful to be honest, especially with your PND