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Getting serious with dp- how to help my 5yo feel secure

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Awoof · 05/09/2018 21:55

I need some collective wisdom please. I have been with dp for 2 years now, and have just started in the last couple of months to invite him to meet my 5yo dd.

I broke up with her father 3 years ago, she doesn't remember us being together as a couple and has a really good relationship with her dad and his dp (We get on fine and contact etc is good)

My sticking point is that dd is very sweetly possessive of me. She is very clear that she doesn't ever want siblings or me to get a husband. This is just stuff she has said out of the blue, I'm certainly not in a rush to go down the aisle or get pregnant!!
We have such a lovely relationship and nice home etc together so I totally understand why any possibility of change would be unsettling for her.

She likes my dp, they have the same silly sense of humour and he gets stuck in playing barbies and scoffing sweets and telling her about his job.
Things are getting serious between him and I and although I'm not in a rush I do see us getting married perhaps in a few years and living together.
I suppose I just need help on phasing this sort of thing in, I'm really stuck and just want to do my best by her.

Fwiw dd hasn't seen us kiss and he doesn't sleep over when he does come round.

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