Partner cheated, and has now changed passwords?

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My partner of a few years cheated on me, denied it multiple times and now finally admitted it. I want to forgive but equally don’t. He promised it was just one night but I’m not sure I believe him. I found a casual sex app on his phone, but he claims he was bored just nosing.

I get it’s bad, but I had his facebook password. I tried logging on to see if there any messages. But his password was changed. Is this another sign of cheating?

He claims it was a one night stand, and no one else saw him go home with someone but he was with all his friends.

I wouldn’t trust his words so easily...

Maybe if you can keep it quiet for a while but keep an eye on him?
In the mean time try to detach and see if you would like to continue with him.
I know it’s easier said than done, but I’m on the second week from a break up. And sometimes it eats you inside out. Just try to be gentle to yourself.

Very sorry 💐🦋

You no longer trust him. (with reason)

How can your relationship last without trust?

Did you agree that as a condition of moving forward together that he has to give you full access to his accounts?

I know I did. There's an article somewhere about what cheaters need to do to rebuild trust.

You have no kids no financial ties why waste time in this deadbeat?

On

Why do you want to forgive him?
Bin him off.
He's of no use to you now.
And with the casual sex app, I would assume he's been putting it about so please do get an STI/STD check asap!!

LTB. Obviously!

He cheated. He lied. He is still lying to you.

You can’t forgive someone who is still lying.

Google chump lady.

He broke your trust so now the onus is on him to rebuild it. That said, you are under no obligation to give him a second chance. Personally, fidelity is critical to me in a relationship and I have no shades of grey - a ONS is as much a dealbreaker for me as a long-term affair. I really couldn't be arsed sharing my life with someone if I felt I had to keep tracking their movements and communications to be confident they were not abusing my trust and I wouldn't expect my partner to have to endure that either. Set higher standards for yourself and what you expect in a relationship.

Cheaters always admit the absolute minimum they think they can get away with. I would put good money on it being way more than once. I would get rid of him - done it myself - and move on. I would also have an sti check too.
Good luck.

I’m sure you’ve been bored before, did you amuse yourself casual sex apps and one night stands?

Can you ever imagine treating your partner this way? Could you even imagined be hurting him and not being anything other than apologetic and desperate to fix things?

You get it's bad? I'm not quite sure you really do get how bad this it.
I'm sensing very little remorse, huge minimising, and the potential to put all he blame for his.cheating on you.
Agree with PPs. Cut your losses whilst you can.

If he's serious about making this up to you and helping you to trust him again, he'd give up his passwords willingly, he wouldn't be changing them.
It'd be easier to believe it was a drunken one night stand that you could potentially move past if it wasn't for the sex app. That suggests the 'one time thing' wasn't so accidental and something he doesn't feel much guilt or remorse about.
I don't know of anyone who downloads those sort of things when they're bored 🙄🤔

Bored, his answer is to hook up with folk for casual sex, you'd be mad to continue with him, I'd guess he's already having one night stands, not just the one, his blatant disregard for you is shocking, bin him off.