feel so guilty - should I tell?

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Have changed my name I feel so bad about this..
Been with dp 4 years, one dd and one on the way.. over the last few months have found myself more and more strongly attracted to someone at work. Nothing has happened and nothing will but I find myself thinking about him constantly, hoping I'll bump into him, imagining ridiculous scenarios where it would be 'OK' for me to kiss him (e.g. swingers party !!! ) and just cannot get him out of my mind. I have no idea if he feels the same, we get on well but he knows about my family.

My question is should I tell dp? I am feeling so bad about it, feel like I'm lying to him, and constantly censoring what I say or else I would be talking about this guy all the time. Part of me thinks it would be ridiculous to tell him as it would only hurt him and achieve nothing. But then part of me thinks it might make it seem more like what it is - a ridiculous crush that has got out of hand. Please help

OK, I will be blunt.
Include the OM in your sexual fantasies, do you have a buzzy toy you could use? It may help relieve it a little.

I have been with my husband 14 years, and have experienced the odd crush like that. They are normal, they fade. The best way to ensure it stays with you for ever, and possible taint the relationship with your partner rather than go away, is to talk to your partner about it.... Dont do it.

Gosh earthy, hope mine doesn't get that far -do you think you have the crush because your marriage hasn't been great or do you think the crush may have partially caused your marriage not to be great? I feel like everything is really good with my dp - he is lovely to me and a brilliant dad and I completely love him and can't imagine living without him. So why do I like this OM so much?

milkchocolate - are you suggesting I (and possibly earthy) imagine that we are with our OM while having sex with our DH/DP? I think that would be an awful betrayal I really do. I have certainly thought about OM during sex when DP wasn't there as it were and feel guilty enough about that.

God NO!
Not for a moment suggesting that you should think about OM when making love to your partner! But, when you have some ME time, just you and you and you and a favoured adult toy if you have one, let your mind wander, it may relieve it somewhat. But think carefully, you dont want to blush when you get to work!