Positive break up stories please

[ChangedName37]

Just as the title says really - I think I'm ready to end things with my partner but I am actually petrified to break his heart and equally scared to be on my own.
Can someone please tell me how they ended things with someone whilst maintaining a civil relationship (we have a 1 yr old) and some positive stories about being on your own after being so used to having someone else in your life all the time, and also overcoming feeling lonely etc.
I really appreciate any replies, as I've been going back and forth about this for so long in my mind and feel like I need to just bite the bullet now.

Anyone at all ?

I think you just say you have fallen out of love with him and there’s nothing that either of you can do to get it back . Don’t feel off a list of reasons why you fell out of love with him as he will just end up obsessing over this , keep it high level but to the point especially as you share a child you’ll need to keep a harmonious relationship going for some years ahead.

In terms of being alone, you’ll adjust. You’ll probably have spats of feeling lonely but it won’t last forever.

Hope it goes okay for you and yoyr child’s Dad xxx

*reel off a list not feel off a list 🤦🏻‍♀️

My break up wasn't civil, but 18 months on I'm a lot happier and becoming more content. I was dreading being on my own, but now I quite like it...

Why do you want to end it? How do you think your partner will react, do they know you're unhappy?

fiercelikefrida

I still love and care for him but I just am not at all attracted to him / in love with him anymore. We have had conversations about it over the last few months and he knows that I've been having these feelings but each time we get into it he asks that we keep trying. I could carry on but it feels like an act and last night we had sex for the first time in over a month and it was just so awkward. I don't believe I'll ever feel any differently unfortunately. I wish I could because he's a wonderful person, but if I don't feel that way what more can I do??

How long have you felt like this? I only ask because I noticed your child is one, so very young.

Its a very strong possibility that he feels the same.

fiercelikefrida

If I'm totally honest, I've never had a massive sexual attraction to him. There have been times we have sex more frequently but i have never initiated sex with him and regularly reject his advances. I know this isn't normal but I have probably kidded myself for years that it's ok, but now it's at the point where I actually dread him trying it on.

OP, I think you can only do what you can do to make the break as gently as possible. He's free to respond to and deal with it in the way he wants to.

I've learned through quite a few break-ups - including two marriages - that the only thing I can control is my own behaviour. And that is hard enough at times!

I just wanted to check it wasn't related to hormones/having a young child.

I agree with the above, you can't control his response. I think it's clear you're unhappy and the problems aren't going to go away.
I hope you manage to separate amicably. You deserve to be happy and so does he.