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I'm Bored & Fed up.

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GingaNinja14 · 04/09/2018 14:07

Advice needed. I am soo bored in my relationship and fed up of being the one to entertain it, my head is on the verge of exploding. He's completely trustworthy but that's all i can say. He tells me how good i look or that he loves me but words mean absolutely nothing to me - i don't react to anything like that. I've learnt from the past only action speak louder than words. He gets me nothing, plans nothing and can't think for himself. We already have two girls i have to think for - he's the third child. I need someone to stand up and be straight. Even deciding on the tea is such a big task. If i want something i don't hesitate and i like to be doing something all the time which he just happens to come along to. If i didn't plan all this we would be sat in all the time. I'm not someone who wants bags, big holidays or shoes - maybe the odd takeaway now and again is a nice jesture but to get that i have to drop hints. He's over in bed within one minute and i'm constantly frustrated. Him sticking a toy on is his version of sorting me out - again it's not about climaxing - i just want enjoyment. Money will break us up one day as he alwayyyyysss moans about not having any yet earns £7k more than me? I'm always paying for things and don't bring it up because i can't be arsed with his reaction to paying for something. I just want an easy yet enjoyable life hence why i do it. He will do things to make his life easier and always comes up with excuses if i pull him up over something - i'm sick of hearing it. I always say to this day i don't know how we got so far as we're like chalk an cheese. He's lovely and i do love him but am i in love with him? I know i shouldn't compare but my previous relationship had it all until he cheated plus he's recently contacted me which makes it all the more difficult. Am i expecting too much when i have a faithful man??

OP posts:
sleepismysuperpower1 · 04/09/2018 14:11

perhaps you could try talking to him? that should be your 1st step. explain how you are feeling, and why. then you can take it from there. wishing you all the best

GingaNinja14 · 04/09/2018 14:18

That's the problem. I already have, he moved out for a few months because of this then come back. I don't know what more to do. 🤔😔

OP posts:
sleepismysuperpower1 · 06/09/2018 20:17

have you considered marriage counselling? it may be worth a try x

Mk1234 · 07/09/2018 00:06

Feel the same too

Lifeisabeach09 · 07/09/2018 12:11

How did you feel when he moved out? Were you happier?

I wouldn't 'settle' just because he is faithful, however, you might not find someone better.

Rudgie47 · 07/09/2018 13:06

He doesn't sound very good.
Why not kick him out and be single then at least you have a chance of meeting someone else. Don't settle for another how ever many years of this.
You can always just remain friends, maybe that would suit you both better. It doesn't sound like you have a lot in common.

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