Hello,
I am new to mumsnet, I am actually based overseas but find the Mumsnet forum responses to be more intelligent and insightful.
My husband works for a large corporation but can work his own hours from home.
He usually wakes up between 9:30am - 11:30 am but usually on the later end. He goes to bed at 1pm ish. He unwinds by staying up late and watching TV.
He has tried waking up early but it is a challenge for him. He also suffers from migraines if he doesn't get enough sleep or is too stressed so I am lenient.
We have one little boy who is 2 and is a terrible sleeper. We have only just managed to get him to fall asleep in his bed. He sleeps with me and still wakes up for milk during the night. We are trying to ween him off milk but that's another challenge.
I am currently at home with my little boy but starting a business making high quality leather bags. I would like to start dedicating more time to this. However...
My husband does not want our little boy in daycare because he got sick too much when we tried it months ago. It was back to back viruses and viral wheezing/asthma.
We have had quite a bit of support from my Mother in Law as I hit a wall mentally and physically with the lack of sleep.
I completely resent my husband. He has cooked meals the last few nights and he does take the bins out and clean the kitchen in the evening. On occasion he does baths and so forth. He really knows how to stretch out these chores though and make me feel like he's doing 10 times more.
He does not enjoy being a Dad even though it's what he wanted. He occasionally does a park trip but he's not into it. My son cries for me when he is alone with his Dad.
Husband had 4 day break over weekend and it went like this.... I woke up during night for our toddler and slept with him, woke up in morning, did activity with him, put him to sleep. At 3pm when he woke from sleep my husband would start chipping in and take to park and cook dinner but I did everything else. I also am the one that lies in bed with my little boy until he falls asleep which takes 1 hour.
I am hugely resentful and want to go to a hotel and leave him with my little boy for two days. Would this be a shitty thing to do ?