I have a small group of friends who are very important to me and to each other. Each year we have a festive tradition of all getting together, having food and doing a secret Santa.
Last year 2 of these friends stopped talking to each other. It's all been understood and respected by the rest of us (even if I am extremely upset by it all). We carried on as normal as we'd already planned Christmas, but 1 of these friends decided not to come.
Fast forward to this year, and they are still not talking. Again, that's up to them and nothing is going to change anything. But I don't know what to do about our tradition. It sounds trivial, but to carry on with it seems really disrespectful to them both as it puts them both in a very difficult position. And to not do it, would make them both feel incredibly guilty for being the reason a 6+ year tradition has ended. Plus disappointing the others of our group. I'm the one who normally starts the ball rolling in planning it. And I don't know what to do. I don't want to upset or offend anyone, but this year I just want to give it a miss.
Any thoughts?