Is there any hope he'll change?

[Mrsdarcyiwish10]

Or is it me that needs to change? Background he volunteers which takes up 1/2 nights a week and and 7/8 weekends a year, he also goes out with friends for meals and also has a hobby which he does 1/2 times a week approx. I wouldn't mind but he does nothing with the dc even when they ask, we never go out without the dc unless it's an anniversary and I don't go out ever as i have the dc.

I don't work as I am disabled and have mh issues, he has some asd traits, he never helps around the house I do all cooking and cleaning. We have had counselling and this be changed for a week or so, had the talk but nothing changes. Am I being too needy or is he entitled to live the single life and have me at home with both dc.

Thank you if you got to the end

Does he help with the dc when at home? Just trying to understand if he is emotionally detached from you all?

His schedule isn't too bad if it's 1 night volunteering and 1 night hobby but why don't you go out?

What are the positives?

Just seems like you need to carve sometime for yourself.

Well of course he’s not entitled to a single life if he’s not .

Thanks for the reply life, he doesn't do anything with the kids, they get upset as he is always shouting at them, your probably right I need to go out more myself but I know the dc wouldn't be happy and the two times I have gone out he has gotten the youngest dc medication wrong both times or not done it at all. Maybe I just need a break

Nope you are not needy, you are expecting what we all would, a partnership, a team, I actually couldn't stay with a man that showed such little interest in myself or his children; it's not acceptable, but it sounds like this has been your life for a while so sorry no he won't change; you either suck it up or get rid.

Ridiculous that he gets to swan about whilst you are stuck being the parent.

What do you get out of this relationship now with someone like this individual?. What is in this for you?

Do you want your children to grow up thinking that yes, this is how men do treat women?. He won't change either; this is who he is. Street angel, house devil is a good turn of phrase for someone like he.

I think you need a permanent break from each other.