'I Love You' or do I??

[Powerless]

Going to keep this brief and reveal as little as I can as I just have a simple question, which I need objective answers to please!

How soon into a relationship did you 'think' you loved your current/last partner?

Trying to work out if what I'm feeling is infatuation, elation at finally finding someone after 3 years alone with my child or if I am genuinely in love with this man! Seems far too soon for love (as it definitely was not love at first sight!), but then where is the rule book?!

Thanks

I felt strong attraction and lust at first, followed by love a few weeks later I think. We've been together 15 years now.

:) Thanks Big x

I don’t think it’s possible to tell until some time after it matters to be honest.

First - love at first sight, together a month later. Definitely in love two years later.

Second - grew slowly and took about six months to feel it.

Third - about three weeks, still confirmed.

Point is, you think it’s love and it may be or it may not be. But then what’s you’re definition of love? That’s what you need to think about.

I was not attracted to my husband at all. I genuinely fell in love with his kindness, generosity, humbleness and honesty. In hindsight i should have got to know him better as it was all a show. He is definitely not the person I thought he was. Hes agressive, arrogant, immature, stingy. We are two totally different people. I do regret moving too quickly.

About 2-3 months is love. Before that is am lustful and besotted.

@Mk1234 He sounds like my ex!

I've totally taken on board your wise words! Thankyou x

Interesting as I've tried to work this out myself. It is tricky as I was probably in denial that I loved him for some time before I accepted that I was.

I accepted that I loved him after about 5 months but it was probably 1 or 2 months before that in reality.

However, after a few years I definitely love him more in that I know him better, we are closer and I know more of his strengths and weaknesses and love him for who he truly is.

Limerence? It *can last up to 3 years apparently?

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