Afternoon all, my apologies for not updating you. I did "have the talk" with my GF and she was understandably upset, we spoke for a few hours about all sorts of things and we came out of it in a very good way and it seemed, without any change or respect for each other. For the last two weeks, I've had an infection in my right leg and really chronic back pain, (to the point of crying because of it). I've been confined to the house as I can't get in my car, therefore, can't drive and I've and not been able to go and see her. On Monday, she called me and got on my case and started to lecture me, claiming I've not even tried. I'm feeling very low at the minute and she called me about an hour ago and lectured me on how and what I should be doing, she's not medically qualified in any way, shape or form, so I asked her how she knew what was good for me? All I got was, "because I know these things". My reply was, "if that's the case, why aren't you working as a medical practitioner in a specific department?". This was followed by a long silence, I asked her if she was still there and got no response, so I hung up.
At just gone 2pm, she called me again and proceeded to lecture me (again) on etiquette and phone manners! After 10 minutes of listening to her bleating on, I interrupted her and told her that I'd had enough of her and she should find someone else who will listen to her shit. I'm a very patient guy, given the crap I've gone through, I've had to learn to live with it and accept that things sometimes cannot be done, there and then, but I have my limits.
For my own well being, safety, health reasons and peace of mind, I've ended the relationship. We (had) a excellent relationship, both in and out of bed, but there are times, when I cannot do what she wants to do, plus there's the issues I had in my first post. I am limited financially and she never did anything to chip in, (I'm not a chauvinist by any means, but at least once or twice, she could have chipped in. In years to come, after the sale of my jointly owned house, I will have money, but I have no pension or savings, so that money will have to keep me going into my latter years, that's if I live passed 59, my dad died at that aged, my grandfather at 54 and I'll be 58 in January. Hopefully, the fact that I keep trying to stay physically and mentally well, will push me along a few years more. At this moment, if I stay with her, I can foresee me going to an early grave and almost two years ago, I was almost in a box, because of my ex's behaviour, so I'm going to look after me now and have some time to consider how, what, where, when and why I'm going to do.
Sorry to blether on about this.