My husband and I have been married for almost 20 years. Last night we had sex and afterwards I went to sleep, and I thought he did too. I woke up some time later to find him having sex with me. I pushed him off me, shouting and throwing things at him, then locked myself in the bathroom to calm down. When I came out he had already gone to sleep so I went back to bed and went to sleep too.
In the morning he woke up first and brought me a cup of tea in bed. He couldn't understand at first why I was so angry with him until I told him he had raped me. He doesn't remember a thing and was horrified to find out what he did. We tiptoed around each other for the rest of the morning and it was a relief to get out to work.
I don't know what to think now, or what to do. Is our marriage over? How can we rebuild any level of trust if he doesn't even remember doing it? Would he do it again? We had two bottles of wine between us yesterday evening but he didn't seem so drunk as to not remember things. What the hell is wrong with him that he had sex with me if I was asleep? He's never done it before so why now, especially as we had already had sex that evening. I'm so confused.