Is he emotionally cheating?

[Mamaiof3]

I know he’s definitely not in a physical relationship with someone but think he might be emontionally cheating with a co worker. He always deletes all his texts and what’s app messages and I wonder why? He goes through my phone and Facebook but I don’t care my phone lies around and his picks it up and helps himself but when it comes to his phone I’m not allowed to touch he never leaves it lying around and if I see him on my phone I say do you want me
to go through yours and he won’t let me! So the other day he left his phone at home I don’t really know how to snoop properly like archive message etc he knows how to do it on my phone but when I came in he snatched the phone of me and I said oh I’m not happy only joking as obviously I didn’t find anything only a fb message from this co worker that I didn’t understand anyway but his face went to really panic which started to worry me he said your just making me like this you always make me like this and feel guilty for nothing but from then I’ve been driving myself crazy! After that she sent a message to our joint banking saying “lovely trainers honey” apparently it was a joke between a few of them at work but to me it was a bit flirty and I’m not comfortable with it but he says it’s innocent and only a joke at work! I’d never do anything like this to him so I expect the same in return but he thinks I’m crazy and paranoid.

Sorry, if he can look through your phone you have every right to look through his.

Being open in a relationship shows trust

I know how you feel I have been in a similar situation myself with emails which I found by chance when I used my partner's computer we have been together for over 40 yrs, I was very hurt, and not sure if I should confront him about the emails. it all came to a head and we had a good talk but it did drive me insane not knowing what was going on.
I now know the reason behind these Emails and I know our relationship will survive.
You need to talk to your partner or it will eat away at you and you will make yourself ill. good luck.

I don’t know if he’s cheating - no ones going to be able to answer that. That being said I certainly wouldn’t tolerate someone making free with my phone but then being upset about accessing his. Why does he think it’s ok to go through your phone ? To me it’s like opening somebody’s mail. His behaviour does seem very secretive and guarded so perhaps there is a case to answer.

He's a bit stupid if he is and doesn't have it password protected .