How did you know you were over your ex?

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Something happened today that made me realise I was finally completely over my ex-FWB who I'd been madly in love with for years: I saw another woman leaving his house early on in what looked like last nights clothes. To be fair it could have been his sister as looked similar in build, height, colouring, age but I only thought of this later. My initial response was slight curiosity and even amusement that he'd brought someone home from the local pub. I was always under the impression that I'd be devastated when he finally met someone else as we'd been Fwb for years so it was a surprise NOT to feel much at all. To be honest it's a relief to know my feelings for him have gone as despite me having a brief relationship with someone else since we stopped being FWB there was always that love there albeit friend love rather than romantic love iyswim. So I got to thinking, what kind of things made you realise you're over your ex? I usually get under another man to get over a recent one but am resolutely and happily single for the foreseeable future now

An indication for me was when I fantasized and lusted after this guy about a year after ex and I finished. Not fully over but a huge sign that I was ready to move on. I have a major crush on this new man and I love having the feeling that I am finally getting over ex. Progress.:)

When I saw a photo of him and his new girlfriend on social media and wasn't bothered or upset by it.
I actually felt very sorry for her to be with a prat like him
In general I know I'm over someone when I'm not thinking about them so much. It's a gradual process but every time I have that light bulb moment when I realise I don't even care about the guy anymore.

I saw him walking down the street and I didn’t have to fight the urge to run him over. I drove past, thought ‘he looks a bit rough’ and then carried on about my day without giving him a second thought.
This thread made me think of it and I only really just realised that I have no feelings towards him, good or bad.

Definitely when I no longer wonder what they're doing or who they're doing it with

After my last relationship of four years ended, I was despondent for some months. Then I had a surprise short fling with a gorgeous Australian boy in his twenties. He moved back the same week we met, which was sad. But it made me realise, hang on, there are millions of men out there. Of course you will find another one.

I think a big indicator is when you don't care if they are with someone else.

I had a little fb stalk of mine a few months after we split. Most of his stuff was private but there were two pictures that were public; one of a very tacky cheep looking woman's shoe (his son told me he used to pick up all sorts of skanky looking women) and another of his sofa with the captain "comfy."

Both were to show he'd shagged someone and I didn't react (he was probably hoping I'd message him in a jealous rage) and I actually found it amusing because it was so sad. That's when I knew I was over him because I didn't care that he'd shagged someone else and I actually thought it was sad and amusing at the same time because the shoe indicated she was skanky.

I never looked him up again!

I woke up one day and realised he hadn’t crossed my mind in weeks and the only reason he had was because he turned up at my gym. All I could manage to shrug to myself was ‘oh I didn’t know he was a member’ with no other thoughts or feelings swirling at all. I think a big tell tale is once you see them with someone else - if that doesn’t phase you, you’re safely over it!

When i saw him one day & instead of thinking 'oh god if only' i thought 'would it be worth the time inside to run him over'

I didn't, he's still alive. And I look back at that relationship & now just think 'whhyyyyy'

I wish my stbexh would drop dead because of all the heartache he's causing the children. I can't detach emotionally because of his effect on them. My other exes? Meh. I do wonder what the hell I saw in my FWB though. I think he seemed exciting at first, made me laugh and understood me well. But he was a shit a lot of the time. Sex was great too although I'm easily pleased and I realised after it was all a bit indelicate and porn like in some ways. So I feel quite sorry for whoever he sleeps with as he follows a pattern during sex and it's all a bit samey. Plus he's a shoot, crash and leave guy

Following, I hope this happens to me as today I was thinking, when will these sad feelings about my ex go (it's been 8months).

When tiny DC asked: 'can we get a kitten if Daddy isn't coming home!'
I got a kitten!
She is a gorgeous Tortie, and her 'brother' came along in March.