Have discovered my H has been making contact with escorts and tbh it's the tip of the bloody iceberg. He doesn't know that I know yet as I don't know what to do on a practical level. Relationship wise, we're done and I have no interest in continuing with it. We have 3 DC ages 7, 4 & 3, live in very overcrowded conditions and I've been a SAHM since DD was born 7 years ago. So I'm already on the back foot in terms of where we live, it's not as simple as asking him to move out as we need to sell and move but I won't be able to get a mortgage alone. And once he's paying me maintenance for the DC where will he live? I know I probably shouldn't concern myself with this but it makes me feel incredibly guilty to think of him alone and regretful.
Plus DS4 is about to start school and he's such a sensitive boy I hate to rock the boat.
I suppose what I'm asking is, I know I need to get my ducks in a row as the saying goes, but what actually are those ducks and how sorted do I need to be before I jump? I'm so worried about screwing everything up for everyone, I'm doing nothing.