Accepting and turning things around

[pinkpixie83]

I feel like I've made some really stupid life choices and continue to do so. But I don't know how to turn things around.

Things have come to a head this weekend, due to yet another one of those stupid choices and I need to alter my mindset.

I've had cbt and some counselling but I get better for a while and then I drop. I'm not depressed as such but I am lonely and that messes with my perception.

What choices have you made that you think are stupid?

At times I regret ending my marriage.

I push away relationships and then get myself into tricky situations with men.

Been there, done that ,got the t shirt... my life now is not exactly brilliant but im content to a certain extent.

I would do the same. Id always questiion myself and doubt my worth, most of the guys ive been with have always been pricks., always got some sort of an agenda.

You'll make mistakes in life, Its ok to, and you'll continue to , we are human. Dont be hard on yourself.

Ive had the councilling and stuff. Its good to talk. Dont bottle it up. I never ever spoke to anyone end of my marriage, i just wanted to forget all the pain however bcz i never spoke about i had all this negative emotion building up. I found it eaiser to talk to people i didnt know than family and friends as they didnt know me and judge me.

You ended the marriage because im guessing you wernt happy. Just remind yourself why you did it.

I found that going for a run helped alot. Try it. Even for a walk, try it, promise you'll feel better than you did before. X

Hi pink pixie83, we all make choices that either achieve our goal or mission or it can give you a lesson that will make you the person you hope to be. You ended your marriage due to reasons which only you know and felt to make that decision. Believe in yourself and keep going remember we all have qualities and are beautiful in someone's life we have to take our future choices for the right intentions the rest is how we deal with any situation s that arise. I met my partner 5 years ago when she was fighting to get full custody of her three year old son and save the house and deal with the domestic violence abuse they both went through. It was very challenging and over night from a free independent lad to taking on the son and mother with the issues that needing seeing too but after three years we achieved it but was blood sweat and tears. Than when our son started school wife made friends with couple of wrong mums who over time gave wrong advice to benefit them but slowly but fast it took it's toll on the relationship and she started acting like them and hidden agendas controlling all finances not repairing thongs we need in the house secretly spending on herself each week and unless I buy the kids are given things less quality and from other mums. She plays feel sorry and started to mentally abuse me financially or I getting to go or kids brainwashed. And she has done the same notes like her ex to a false kidnapped charge on me with our son Evan police picked that up.she claims she ended our relationship ages ago but when it comes to gifts not holiday or money than all is foegiven. I am mentally tortured and she no way out to get help