Been seeing a guy just under a year and things seemed to be going quite well until recently and I don’t know if it’s me overthinking or is he being unfair?
We had issues over a female friend of his and I felt he wasn’t being upfront and we argued. He just assumed that plans we’d had later that week would then not go ahead.
This was a few weeks ago. Then we argued last weekend and he was shouting at me saying I’m a fucking nightmare and would I just drop it (he brought it up because he was going to show me something on his phone and then when I leaned over he clutched it away saying it’s none of my business what’s on his phone and he’d show me the thing when he’d opened it. He said I was looking to see if she’d texted him). He told me he’s “not discussing this (her) again.”
So I was a bit annoyed at that (him swiping the phone away) and said so and he told me to just fucking drop it. He ranted at me for a good 20 minutes 😔
Anyway he apologised the next day and said he was tired and grumpy...
So we were supposed to be going out for dinner tonight for my birthday and we ended up arguing this morning about her... so he said he was sick of it and cancelled our plans. The thing is I still don’t really know what happened (he says nothing and I’ve just to believe him) or the nature of this friendship and it does niggle at me. He has other female friends who don’t give me that feeling. Am I just paranoid now? I’m not massively happy that whenever we disagree he becomes insulting and dismissive. He says he’s “sick of it” whenever we argue. That and cancelling our plans makes me think I don’t know if we’ve just argued or split up!