AIBU to be hurt by his response?

[PipplePop]

dd has severe mental health issues. Yesterday bf (he's not her dad) walked out because it all got too much for him and I was left to deal with it all (this usually involves dd beating the shit out of me)

Whilst I don't blame him I'm completely exhausted by what I'm dealing with on top of everything else that's expected from me in life. I have another child who gets ignored most of the time.

DD didn't sleep till 2am so this morning so I was shattered when i got up and spent most of the morning crying and wondering if life is even worth the struggle. My own MH has been pushed to the brink caring for my daughter and I'm struggling big time......I'm on a waiting list to see a therapist.

This afternoon bf text to see how I was and I told him "I'm just completely done in. my head is in a really bad place and I'm not sure I can keep on putting one foot in front of the other."
he ignored this and basically asked if he is in the way and has turned the conversation round to himself and that he thinks I don't want him around. I'm pissed off.....it took a lot for me to be honest and he couldn't care less.......so long as he gets some reassurance.

Hi Pipple,

If your partner is not enriching your life in any way and just adds to the stress you already have to deal with, get rid of him.

Sounds like you have enough on your plate without having to deal with his shit too.

I’d have interpreted his message as him not knowing what to say, and checking whether his presence is adding more stress (so he can back off if you need that).

Your daughter is physically attacking you? What’s going on with that? Are the police/MH services involved? I’m sure it’s a complex situation, but you don’t ever have to put up with being hit by someone, whether they’ve got mental health issues or not. I sincerely hope you know that. You have value as a person beyond just being a carer/punching bag for your daughter!

What could he do?

I can’t imagine being helpless and having to watch someone I love go through what you’re going through and being powerless.

What help are you getting for your DD?

He's a good guy, I just really needed him and his response upset me. If someone sent me a message like that I'd be concerned and convey that in my reply. His response just made it all about him. I feel like I can't even reach out to the closest people to me.
I always try my hardest to support the people around me yet when it comes to me there's a certain expectation for me to get back up and dust myself off. There are only so many times you can do that......I'm living in an abusive relationship that there is no escape from because it's my child abusing me. She's under a psychologist but she's been little help and so far has suggested audio books and a space where dd can be alone when she needs to calm down......in reality she needs close supervision because when she has a melt down she resorts to self harm or trashing everything.
I'm going to call social services on Monday but I'm sure they'll fob us off like everyone else.

I just really needed someone to say are you ok? What can I do to help? I'm here for you. but instead the conversation was turned around to reflect his insecurity in our relationship. I'm totally exhausted.