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[Newbabies15]

To expect my husband to move faster? I have to ask for things to be done and i'm sick of it. I feel like a manager. I feel overworked.

Can you give more context and insight into what you mean OP. It's hard to tell whether you are being unreasonable when there's so little info given

Because:

1. It feels like we’re being nagged.
2. we don’t realise something needs doing, because the woman likes to run the house (and is usually better at it)
3. because immediately jumping up and doing it makes us look like slaves (:p) and wouldn’t help our male pride.
4. a lot of the times things do not need doing that very second and can wait (until we’ve forgotten about them).

Just digging out my boxing gloves, give me a few minutes

User - your arguments are astoundingly weak and I see you are prone to sexist bullshit. I'm assuming you're a man. If you're in a heterosexual relationship, I hope to god you don't spawn offspring.

I didn’t make any arguments, as a man I posted the reasons why.

When have I posted ‘sexist bullshit’ ?

Well user, if you/op's husband actually acted like adults and took on your fair share of what needed doing instead of lazily leaving it to your partners, she wouldn't have to nag

User, if you had an ounce of gumption you would realise that:

1. It is not your job to sit around waiting to be assigned tasks. You are a grown up and should be able to contribute equally.
2. No we’re not. Stop passing the buck and using it as an excuse to sit around on your arsehole. You can cook a meal or clean the toilet just as easily as a woman,
3. You don’t need to wait to be asked. Just go and help your family. This isn’t rocket sconce.

4.You’re really just a lazy arsehole.

Instead of wasting your time digging out the boxing gloves, why not sit down with your wife and try to be a grown up about the household chores.

When have I posted ‘sexist bullshit’ ?

You used the word nag, which is only ever used about a woman - generally one who has got fed up of being treated like a domestic appliance.

You also use the phrase “because immediately jumping up and doing it makes us look like slaves (:p) and wouldn’t help our male pride.”

Sexist twattery around male pride - not being ‘hen-pecked’ by actually doing as you’re asked etc. This sad portrait you paint of men doesn’t do you any favours.

Living up to the sexist stereotype yourself and using a nasty sexist term about women, nice one.

User are you an adult male? Or Kevin the teenager?

Not unreasonable, it's bloody annoying.
It might be easier to divide up chores and each have responsibilities with times to be completed. Hopefully you won't need to nag. The deal is if one isn't pulling their weight the other doesn't have to either. You might enjoy having a break from doing stuff too. Maybe when he is inconvenienced he will how annoying it is.

He should not need you to tell him what needs doing.

But the fact that you said he should move faster, makes me think that you could also being a bit unreasonable.

Context is needed begor3 anyone can say, really.

My mum used to want things done and complain about it not bring done fast enough or not in the way she would do it. Never matter if yiu were in the middle of something. It had to be done the minute she decided it had to be done. It's bloody annoying.

Ignore User - he's clearly high on his testosterone. Either that or a complete dumbass,

This is how it works in our house. If one of us is hungry one will arrange dinner and ask if anyone else wants any. I wash the clothes if they are in the laundry room. If it seems that one person is the only one vacuuming/emptying bins/dusting/taking out rubbish they will stop and someone else will do the chore.

This works surprisingly well. And no, my home is not a tip. We all live together and there are no separate jobs (except loading the washing machine). DH loads the dishwasher most of the time but if he doesn't - I will do it. There are no his'n'her jobs.