How to split when he has nowhere to go

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I want to split with DH, we have two DC ages 6 and 1. He's not a bad guy, does lots round the house very hands on with the kids but for many different reasons I just don't love him anymore.

The problem is if I asked him to leave he doesn't have anywhere to go, his family are 200 miles away, he has no friends and we can't afford for him to stay in a B and B. I'm a SAHM and we have joint finances, I sort all the bills etc out, I have no worries he'd leave me and the kids short of money but how do you split when he has nowhere to go?

I also have no where to go with the children and I wouldn't want to take them from their home anyway

I'm stuck

You don't have joint finances. You have his income and whatever benefits you get.

You need to have your own independent income if you want to split up. I mean, him going to live with parents if they were nearby or a friend if he had one and still paying for you to live in the family home is ridiculous.

There are many people who split up and have to keep living together for a while. I suggest if you're the one who wants to split, you're the one who moved into the spare room.

We split two months ago, he is still in the spare room. No family nearby and no job to finance a move as he'd been my carer.

It was an amicable split, but gets less so every day. I don't recommend it unless there is really no other option. As soon as we split, finances were separated - he now has his own UC claim while he looks for work.

Well ops not been back.... I guess she didn't want the responses that say get a job, support yourself etc

Yup. I'm afraid that if you want to split you need to work out how you are going to pay for your half of costs going forward.