Sorry new to this but at my wits end with my relationship of 8 years, we have a 6 yr old child together and over the past few years things have gotten out of control! I believe he’s a narcissist but he thinks I’m the crazy one!? On a daily basis while he works mon to fri i work sat sun due to our son, and school, he phones me several times per day asking what I’m doing we’re ive been etc yet if I miss the call I’m hounded with txts asking what I’m doing or phone me now! As if there’s some emergency yet it’s all just to ask what I’m doing??? Then when I’m at work sat sun I get no phone calls from him and if I txt him asking what he’s upto I get nothing but abuse telling me to fk off and he can’t b arsed txting! Then when I say why r u so nasty I get a reply with no that’s u! He’s always looking for an argument and he’s become very rude and disrespectful, he fires nasty vile names at me on a daily basis if I do or say something that pisses him off, if I try stand up for myself and give him back as good as he gives I’m then suddenly a physco, head case! He smashed items in the house but never hit me, but his vile words are just as painful as a punch! He constantly accuses me of cheating which I havnt yet I’m not aloud to touch or look at his phone? He’s a great dad but I feel I’m the target for all his rage! Iv become very depressed and Iv had days when I feel I don’t wanna b here! I just wanna no why someone can one day speak and treat you great to then turn around and use u as a verbal punch bag the next, my son isn’t normally there when this happens but he has been upset on a few occasions over the words that come out his dads mouth and to see his Mum crumble isn’t what I want, Iv told him to leave plenty times ( it’s my house) but he starts with his evil nasty ways saying he gonna empty the house wen I’m at work or get rid of my pets while I’m at work, Iv had police involved once but they weren’t interested because he hadn’t physically hurt me
I feel I walk on eggshells in my own home everyday scared of what mood he’s gonna b in! He’s very disrespectful to his family especially him mum and sisters who get the same vile names thrown at them as me! He’s always got to be right and as soon as he realises he’s not then u get called everything under the sun or he storms off slamming doors swearing etc! He’s a grown man and not sum silly little boy but I’m just so hurt right now I don’t no what to do or think! He’s constantly saying I need locked up and that I’m the problem I’m a head case and I’m mentally unstable and it’s all in my head but I no how relationships work and certainly calling me a dog, ugly, slag a mess etc is not on and not normal! I can’t have a normal convo with him anymore as he tells me to shut up he’s not interested in what I’m saying but Iv gotta sit and listen to him babble on about his day and show interest or I get called a rude ct and then get silent treatment for the rest of the day apart from when he fires the odd name at me or barks at me ! ( yes he barks at me ) 
I just want to no that it’s not all me over reacting and that this guy is the problem not me! Thanks