Ok so I hate my DP’s best friend. I know hate is a strong word, but I hand on heart cannot stand the guy!!
He’s the biggest trouble making, attention seeking guy I’ve ever came across and I get totally paranoid when my DP is out drinking with him. It’s started to cause fights with us as I just want him to cut this guy off as I can see him for what he is. Although, I would NEVER EVER make him choose between us.
Here’s an example of the things best friend has done:
When me & DP were together about 6 months, DP was on a night out with him. They bumped into some girls - one of which DP knew from his gym (they were quite friendly, he would help her with diet plans etc as she had at one time been anorexic, he always showed me the texts and stuff and I was cool with it) Anyway, they left the place where they had bumped into the girls and went elsewhere but the said girl had then text DP to say she was having a party back at hers and did they want to go. DP said he really didn’t think it appropriate to go to a house full of girls while he had a girlfriend. So the friend gets hold of his phone and starts texting her, making out it was DP and writing things like “yea come pick me up then” “my friend says he’ll come if he gets a pussy pounding” I saw the texts and went ballistic at DP but he swore it wasn’t him that sent them. I think for someone to do that from a friends phone when he has a girlfriend is wrong on so many levels! I mean he didn’t even care about the consequences it would have for DP if I saw (which I did) those texts
Another thing he does is constantly start fights when him and DP are out drinking. A couple of christmas’ ago they had went to Edinburgh for an Xmas night out. I got a text from DP at 4:30am telling me he had been in a fight and had broken 2 bouncers noses so may and up being arrested as the police had been called. Turns out best friend had started a fight with a guy while DP was at the toilet and was chucked out. When DP returned he was told by one of the bar staff that his friend had been chucked out. When he went outside there were 3 bouncers laying into bestfriend really bad. DP obviously tried to help his friend, he is very strong and he punched a couple of the bouncers and broke their noses. They all then had to go to hospital as best friend was in a bit of a mess and when they got there the police were already there with the bouncers. Luckily he never got arrested though. Literally every time they go out together this guy starts a fight with someone and DP has to intervene as the guy is a total wimp and only starts these fights as he knows DP will intervene. After the Xmas incident I said enough was enough and this was happening wayyyy to often. DP seemed to listen at this point and didn’t speak to the guy for about a year.
A few months ago best friend text DP about 2 in the morning saying “Why didn’t you like that girl I brough out that night” When I heard the phone going off I asked who was texting at that time in the morning. He said best friend. I asked what he wanted so slate at night so DP showed me the text and being honest, he did look confused. I asked what that was all about and he said he didn’t know and text best friend asking what he was talking about. Best friend text back the next day and said he was talking about some girl he had taken out one night, years before DP & I had even met!! Now this guy hates the fact DP has a girlfriend and he doesn’t so I really believe he sent that text knowing I’d be with DP at the time and it would cause a fight between us, as obviously I would wonder who “that girl” was he was referring to.
Now they are back in touch and going out regularly again. DP has been telling me some really concerning stuff lately about this guy and showing me some dodgy texts best friend has sent him. As I said before, friend hates the fact DP has a girlfriend and he doesn’t. A couple of months ago I found out I was pregnant and just after DP told BF, BF started acting really weird. He was sending DP all these texts saying he was really depressed and didn’t want to live anymore etc...etc... Although I don’t like the guy I was genuinely quite worried. Then he text DP one Saturday and said he had tried to kill himself twice that week. Said he had tried to hang himself, then he had taken pills to try and OD. DP was actually starting to become a bit suspicious of it by this time and didn’t really believe him as he hadn’t been sectioned and didn’t seem to be under the care of a psychiatrist. BF was still going out drinking etc. So, DP again tried to cut contact down a bit. He has been seeing him sometimes and best friend is now telling DP stuff like....he was abused as a child etc. DP just doesn’t know what to believe as he’s been friends with this guy for 20+ years and he has never told DP any of this.
The problem is now, I’m starting to get really paranoid when DP is seeing this guy as I’m scared he’s going to lead DP astray 😩 I don’t know if it’s jut pregnancy hormones getting the better of me. DP went out with him on Friday and we had a really big argument because of it. It actually made me feel like a bit of a control freak for being annoyed that he was going out with his best friend but I just think the guy is a wrong ‘un on so many levels!! We haven’t spoken since Friday.
So sorry for the long post. Am I being stupid in wanting him to stay away from this guy?