Not in love

[Cawfee]

If your DH told you he loved you but wasn’t in love with you, what would you think? He’s also “popping out” at almost midnight. I think I’m being screwed around here! Would mumsnet think the same?

Have you asked him where he's going to so late in the eve?

I would assume he's cheating to be honest and wouldn't hang around trying to find proof. I'm sorry but he sounds horrid.

Yes..

I'd think the whole going out thing too is very odd, maybe question him on it?

Is he having sex in someone's hedge?

I’ve asked him (as he was going out the door) denies seeing anyone but refuses to tell me where he’s going.

He refuses to tell you where he's going? What did you say to that?

I walked away saying “you must think I’m stupid”. I guess I am.

Fine. Not only not in love but zero respect for you. Do you have kids?
Yes he has had his head turned and enjoying the affair. So ask him to leave and start proceedings. You deserve better.

Could you follow him next time or just go with him?

ILYBINILWY is normally code for an OW. Normally. Anymore evidence?

My response would be asking if he wants to remain in the marriage given what he's said.

If he's going out at midnight without telling you where he's going... I'd tell him that's a sign the marriage is over and move towards separation and divorce.

Or id play the same game and stay out for the night.

That nonsense wouldn't go down well with me, without a reaction.

Maybe drugs? Or a walk? Or gambling?

I feel that men are just not wired to be that brazen if having an affair. I am most probably wrong though.

Did he come back Caw?

He did. No more info. I was fast asleep. Past caring right now to be honest. Concentrating on me, my wellbeing and my kids happiness