Currently going through a breakup. Been together 14 months but want different things. Main sticking point is children. I said from the beginning that I wanted them, before we even got together, he didn't say he didn't but then it transpires that not only does he not want any more (he has grown up kids so that's why I had the conversation even at the hint of something more than a friendship) but he's had a vasectomy and can't.
This all came to light a few months in and I considered ending it then and probably should have done but I was in lurve and yadda yadda.
Anyway, now he's saying that we both know that we can't stay together because of the baby issue and not only that but given me a list of all the reasons why he wouldn't want to live with me. So basically even if either of us changed our minds about children then it wouldn't work anyway because I have pets (WTF?).
I am fuming. Is this inevitable? I don't want to be angry. We want different things and it's not his fault, it's not my fault that we're at different stages in life. I keep replaying the stuff he said about my lifestyle on top of the fact that I still feel he was economical with the truth at the beginning of the relationship and it's just making me so angry.
My emotions are all over the place. Still love him one minute, then want to tell him how angry I am with him the next.
I know it's over. I really don't want it to be but it has to be. I want children. It's really important.
Is this a phase that will pass? I was single before this for years and can't remember how my last breakup went. Funnily enough that ended for the same reason - didn't want kids.
Urgh.