Did I get this wrong?

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Good friend, dear old friend really who I love lent me an old jacket the other day there. Jacket is worn but she still wears it occasionally.

I wore it and got some fucking paint on it. DH is glossing the Windows, so I should have been more careful.

I told friend, apologised, gave her the monetary value. She wouldn’t accept but I insisted and told her I would try and repair the jacket. I also looked for a replacement but as it’s so old there isn’t one.

So have given her the monetary reimbursement, and if I can repair the jacket I will.

DH thinks this is totally OTT and I should have just apologised and left it at that.

My friend still wants me to take the ££ back but I have said absolutely not and to buy herself something just for the hell of it.

Who is right here? Me or DH ?

You sound nice, you are right, it's nice to be nice, you damaged something you borrowed so of course you replace/offer the cost. Why would your dh even care?

He thinks I would have made friend feel a bit overwhelmed and it wa too much.

I think it’s just the right thing to do.

Thank you for your input.

You are the opposite of what's known as a CF on mumsnet. That was so considerate of you and shows lovely manners.

Ok, thank you! That’s good

Try some baby lotion it may soften the gloss.

You did right.

Ooh I will try the lotion tip- cheers!

My boyfriend got biro off a leather sofa using nail varnish remover( those quickies pads) - no sign of it now. Might be worth a try if the jacket is otherwise ruined.

I found white spirit worked really well on my son's new top, be careful tho as it can sometimes lighten the fabric. Dab it on rather than rub.
Maybe you can keep it if you've paid her? Then you can either try and remove the stain or find a cool patch to add to it. They're really in style at the moment.
I'd do exactly the same as you in that scenario. It's up to the friend to decide what to do with the money. Your dh is wrong.