Thought I could do this but now I’m not too sure

[oprahwindfury]

Broke up with DP this week, mutual decision due to lack of trust and circumstance - decided we’d be friends

Didn’t realise he’d want to date straight away - he’s out tonight wining and dining

Can’t think of anything else and have knots in my stomach - not sure that I I can be the supportive friend as I still have feelings for him

Wondering whether I should go NC or tell him I’m struggling and maybe we should give things another go

it was him pushing for friendship - he asked me not to block him and said that maybe at some point we will get back together

I know you can't see it because it's your life but honestly, read that back as if your best mate posted it....

please don't block me, I'm not 100% certain if I'll be able to find a better model or line up a reliable shag. I really would like you on a string just in case...

he asked me not to block him and said that maybe at some point we will get back together

The fact that you went along with this should show you that you aren't ready to meet someone else. You need to work on you. Put effort into your friends, family, career. Only when you have more self-respect and boundaries should you even think about dating. There is nothing wrong with being single. In fact, it can be liberating.

I’ve been friends before but first we went NC for 60 days! And kept the friendship casual at first.

He asked not to block him and perhaps you may get back together?? Fall back option don't you think? Fuck that
You know you're worth more. Block him and move on. Hard but you'll feel stronger for it.

Imagine this was your daughter's boyfriend and what you would advise. Then follow it.

2 years with breaks suggests that this relationship is not healthy. It keeps breaking down for numerous reasons or the same reason over and over.

Interestingly a psychologist said that the ex with benefits was the most destructive relationship to be in. If he is pushing for friendship which will undoubtedly lead to sex, this relationship will become an ex with benefits.

He is keeping you dangling. Normally I would be saying he commits to you or you move on but I am going to say move on.

You need to list why this relationship won't work, not a pros and cons list, a cons list only. And read it when you are feeling unsure.

You are not his priority or the love of his life. You are someone he shags and toys with.

Change your number or block his. You do not need to be in contact with him.

He's a man. All they care about is where they will next get their bit of wanksock from. Sorry, but him "pushing for friendship" is him wanting to keep a convenient wanksock available.

it was him pushing for friendship - he asked me not to block him and said that maybe at some point we will get back together

Agree with PPs about working on your self-respect and boundaries - don't let him keep you on hold and then rub your nose in the fact he's seeing other people!

If he cared about your feelings at all, there's no way he would behave like this - he's showing you who he is, so believe him and thank your lucky stars that you're now free to find someone decent!

Definitely go NC, I would suggest two months and then hopefully at the end of that, you won't care so much anyway.

Remember why you split up.

lack of trust and circumstance

You've no kids together .....no reason to stay in contact with him.

Just tell him you've lots going on and feel it's best to cut contact with him. Then block him.