Why does my DH keep annoying me without meaning to?

[SlimmingMumOf1]

I don't know what it is but he is really bugging me without trying to. We don't really spend any time together as we both work and have a DS to look after. I am starting to get quite hostile and defensive towards him! First off, every time he is stressed or something goes wrong, he just has a few drinks but then I feel like I can't even have a conversation with him because he talks shit. I have told him I don't like it when he drinks and rather us talk properly but he doesn't listen.

I have told him one day I will leave if he continues because I'm not somebody who will tolerate and put up with it, which he did get angry about and told me to be grateful for what we've got etc!

I feel resentful as well because I am the one who has to do everything. For instance, I had to find childcare ASAP which took ages because he got a new job and didn't think to even try and help me find childcare to fit around our hours (he looks after DS when I work and vice versa but he's in childminders now).

I don't know... I just don't feel anything towards him? we haven't had sex for a very long time. Before I used to always try and get it started but he'd say he is tired so I don't bother anymore then he moans that we never have sex?! I just need a proper, adult conversation instead of talking to a DH who is shit and talks shit when he has had a drink feeling so fed up... all he does is moan about his life and drinks when the going gets tough! I really feel like just getting out of here but I've got a family to think about

You ask why your dh keeps annoying you? Because he is useless dh who drinks too much/ has no interest in sex and is generally not contributing much to the relation. You sound surprised that you are so annoyed at all that. Its a totally normal reaction.
He won't change. This is the guy you are married to. But you can decide what you want to do.

I think all couples have blips - there are peaks and troughs. I suppose it just depends how deep the trough is. Do you ever get any quality time alone together - go out for a meal, that sort of thing? Sometimes you just need a bit of time to remind yourself of the good qualities, of why you got together in the first place - it's so easy to lose sight of that when you're just dealing with the day to day grind.

But if he's unsupportive and drinks too much and is unpleasant - well no, you don't have to stay.