Am I being unfair

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Hi, I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years we have an 8 month old together and live together. We was meant to be going away Monday but unfortunately I am experiencing an early miscarriage I saw the doctor today who said I have to have a scan on Monday and he strongly advises against me going away. My boyfriend has been extremely unsupportive, firstly he hasn’t stopped asking if we can still go away. He has said I am unfair as this is the only time he can get off work. He says I am selfish and that I’ll be fine. We got back a few hours ago I went to bed he put our baby in to bed and said he was going out with friends. He saw how upset I was and said just say if you don’t want me to go, and then said but we’re in different frames of mind here, you’re poorly and I’m ok so I dont want to sit here, but I will if you want me to. I felt guilty so told him to go but ended up sobbing on my own. Am I unreasonable for being angry at him?

Also it was me paying for me holiday anyway and he said I was selfish as he pays for me every month by paying the rent and that he has to go to work because of me to pay for work so therefore I’m selfish for not going

Your boyfriend is a prick (excuse my French).
What an unsupportive bastard!!!!

Do not have another child with him

Your boyfriend's behaviour here sounds emotionally abusive ....of course he pays the rent - you look after the baby ....your child is 8 months old. Why is he speaking to your as if you should be grateful that he provides for his child and mother of child ?? Like "he pays for me every month" as if it's a burden? How about you split up and he just pays you for his child maintenance every month and you don't have to deal with being treated this way.
You are having a miscarriage and he is being like this to you.... ? Calling you selfish? Kicking you when you are down.... I am so sorry.... :(
This would be unforgivable in my book. Do you have support to turn to in real life to talk about this ? I would be inclined to talk with the doctors about this - saying he is pressuring you to go away on holiday and calling you selfish (when he is acting incredible selfish!) and see what they say...they would hopefully realise you are in an unhealthy / possibly abusive relationship and note this down/help you.

This shows a lot his character......how he supports you when something serious happens like this...I just cannot imagine a good man ever reacting like this towards his girlfriend/mother of child. What would you say if a boy treated your daughter or your friend this way? What advice would you give her ? Do you think she'd have a right to be upset/angry?

Thank you, I feel more reassured that I am not overreacting or being unfair. He says that I am causing him stress And that he doesn’t need that in his life, and that he wants us to go have a nice time, he said I’m selfish because I just want to keep the money when he spends all his money on me. He said how Can I begrudge him the money spent on a holiday, He said he doesn’t have anything because he pays for the rent and the bills. I said that I’m in pain and I don’t feel good at the moment but he said that I just want to keep the money. But I have offered to work and I don’t ever ask him for a penny.

Tell him to take holiday on his own....and when he gets back you will have moved out to a friend's/family members house to stay with baby to recover to get some perspective and have a break.
Is this the first time he has behaved like this? Has there been other things troubling you in the relationship how he treats you? Do you feel cherished and safe? It sounds like he's treating you like you are less than him...and that you should be grateful for him shouldering the burden of you. In my opinion this is not healthy and respectful and could be a sign of a bigger problem and his behaviour could get worse if you tolerate this.
Get some advice from someone in real life ie. counsellor/doctor/friend....someone who can see objectively the situation and please do open up to them....xxxx

He is absolutely outrageous, I'm so sorry OP

First off OP, I'm so very sorry for the loss of your baby. Big hugs to you.

Secondly, wow just fucking WOW at your BF's attitude, behaviour and actions. I think you should really think long and hard about if you want to be with this "man". You're middle of a miscarriage, in pain-both physical and emotional- and his response is to go out with mates. Really?? FUCKING REALLY? He's not upset at all, doesn't even consider your pain and can only think of himself. He has shown you your future and it will only get worse with time.

Selfish, unsupportive absolute c*nt. This is not how a loving partner behaves. Please use this time he's out to really consider that the way you feel right now at this moment, is the best you're probably going to ever get from him. And it will get worse over the years. I wasted 10 years of my precious life with someone that sounds a lot like him.

Take care of yourself and look out for you right now dolly. xx

OP - please sort some contraception going forward.
This isn’t a relationship that is going to last, and certainly isn’t an environment to bring another child into.