Long time mumsnet lurker and I’ve read so many posts and replies of people who’ve somehow got through the most awful, painful, heartbreaking experiences. I really need help with how to cope with this.
My ex partner has met someone else and decided he prefers her. They met while we were still together. We have DC which he has cut contact with in favour for his new partner. I only found this out through contacting her as I found suspicious messages - his behaviour had changed towards me and he was acting very distant.
My heart is truly shattered, he has also told me that it’s my fault he will no longer see DC because I contacted this woman - potentially causing problems between them (who he now claims is the love of his life).
It’s still very early days for me (weeks) but I am struggling so much. It’s constantly playing on my mind. My ex partner is also now ignoring me in my attempts to contact him about DC, while he is living with the new woman.
He has told her awful lies about me (she told me this, and that she believes them) She is also pregnant. Baby was likely conceived while me and my partner were still together. The woman knew about us and our DC when she began seeing him too.
He has made it very clear how strongly he feels towards her and that she will now come above everything else in his life, including our DC. This isn’t a phase and it seems like he has been planning abandoning us for months. He lied and made excuses which I didn’t believe and then admitted he wanted our relationship to be more ‘casual’ because he was overwhelmed.
I feel so incredibly stupid and especially as he has told me the reason he won’t see dc is due to me contacting the woman for answers. Answers which made me feel a million times worse.
What do I do and how on earth can I move forwards? Thank you 