Am I just paranoid?

[proudmum77]

Please hopefully you will all think I am just being silly. My husband went out tonight (works do) (there have been previous issues with him drinking - not knowing when to stop on a night out and many moons ago something happened with someone - he insists he didn't sleep with her but......) anyway I was doing OK, left him to it to have fun. We texted each other all was good. 11.55 he texts and says he missed the train is waiting for and a taxi. Great I was really pleased how I'd handled it. An hour later he hadn't arrived home, worried I text and no answer. After trying him again (a few times) he said he was still waiting for taxi. I asked why had he not rung one and he said it hadn't turned up, that they were all closed. He then said he was going to the taxi offices but when he tried they were all closed. So now he's walking home (we live 3 miles away)......... It is now 1.30. Is this true? Has he been elsewhere? Is it me being paranoid? Has he just missed the taxi and a bit drunk has been daft and they are all really closed...... I feel so bad, worried sick about him and if he is telling the truth and upset with myself for being paranoid.......

Have you ring the taxi offices yourself of the local firms he would have called?

Obviously once he rolls in you'll be able to see the number of failed calls to taxi firms on his phone. Do not let him go anywhere once you've made this demand.

If you live in Shitsville, West Sussex then yeah his account is plausible but if you live in civilisation then where the F has he been?

Do you live in a village?
You could've called the taxi on his behalf, he could be too drunk to give directions and is lost.

Well he came home and did appear to have walked. Bit breathless and sweaty...... yes I tried to ring and they were closed but that was 1.30 ish not 12 when he was first saying it? Then this morning he wanted sex, this never happens on a morning.....

It’s impossible to know whether he’s telling the truth, really it is. The story sounds plausible, similar has happened to me on nights out and I’d probably be a bit if my partner questioned whether I’d been sleeping with somebody else because I’d struggled to get a taxi. The point is, you clearly don’t trust him at all, perhaps this is due to whatever happened “many moons ago”, perhaps due to your own insecurities, perhaps both. You need to have a good think about the relationship and whether you want to be in it anymore, with somebody you trust so little that if he’s late home or doesn’t call for an hour, you suspect unfaithfulness. Relationship counselling might help the two of you communicate better about how it makes you feel when he drinks too much and explore why you don’t trust him.

Actually, I’d be more than a bit , tbh. I spent several years with now ex-P who would accuse me of cheating if I was so much as half an hour later home than expected after work because the bus was late or I stopped off at the supermarket on the way. It’s a miserable way to live and I feel for any partner of somebody with trust issues. Now, if he’s been unfaithful in the past, your lack of trust is understandable - though you still need to seriously consider whether you made the right choice in staying if, even after “many moons” you can’t trust a word he says.

Then this morning he wanted sex, this never happens on a morning.....

Hangover horn. It's a thing.

Did you check his call logs to see if he had rung the taxi firms?

Hangover Horn - I thought that was a difficult rock climb in the Pyranees.