Cutting contact with ex.. while pregnant. How do I do this

[Cakery]

So my partner walked out 3 weeks ago while I was 26 weeks pregnant
He just simply said he doesn’t want to be with me anymore and he doesn’t want to try cause it won’t change so he hasn’t been to speak etc
I have a 3 year old from a previous relationship- so I’m very shocked he can just walk away from him too but that’s it
ATM we have been having the odd text but it generally turns into a bicker. Mainly cause I’m ridiculously stressed he’s just walked out, worried about finances and worried about the support I’ll have when this baby arrives.

So I’ve said to him I want to cut contact till she’s here. I gain nothing from trying to speak to him, he isn’t offering me physical or emotional support.
So is this the right thing to do? And HOW do I do it ? I can’t go out and distract myself. I’m sat here already missing speaking to him. It hurts so much cause I wanted it to work :(

It is the right thing to do.
Block him until baby arrives then send him a message. I wouldn't count on him being involved with baby and I would strongly advise you do not put him on birth certificate or give baby his last name.

Do you have a support network? Do you work?

And why can't you distract yourself? Have friends over, watch funny TV/movies (get a membership to Netflix or Prime, if you don't have one).
Go for long walks with your toddler.

If budget is an issue with distractions, adult colouring books are relatively cheap (and you can use your littl'uns pens and pencils!) and I find very soothing to distract my hands while listening to the radio or a podcast.

Another good example of this type of "hands busy" technique (which prevents your itchy fingers from texting or calling someone you don't want to!) is games on Facebook such as CrossStitch World or jigsaw puzzles.

To address your original question - put your ex on block on your phone, email and social media. Tell him you'll inform him when the baby is born.

If he doesn't come to register the birth with you then you can't put him on the birth cert anyway, which is good as it means he won't have automatic PR should he choose to become a dickhead and start demanding a say in schooling, healthcare, whether you can go abroad with DC etc.

Him not being on the birth cert does NOT mean he doesn't have to pay maintenance. He absolutely does. He may choose to contest paternity to try to get out of paying, in which case he will pay for DNA tests (painless for the baby).

I have some support. My mum died when I was pregnant with my toddler so my only family is my dad. He’s a brilliant practical dad. But isn’t hands on or good for emotional support. I work monday - Thursday and I am finishing at 36 weeks. Friday my little boy doesn’t go to nursery and it’s our ‘ mummy day’
He already said today h wants to be at the birth- however I’m having a section c section ( another terrifying issue no idea how I’ll cope ) so I’ve said I want somewhere there who can support me. He isn’t happy with this nor does he see it isn’t his automatic right to be stood in that room.
I think I need to download Netflix - it’s the first time in my life I dread my 3 year old going to bed at 7!

He already said today h wants to be at the birth

Your ex, or your dad?

You absolutely don't have to have anyone in there with you that you don't want. Lots of women have their best friend or a female relative as a birth partner, would this be an option for you?

Meant my ex!
I think I could ask my mums friend. I just worry I’ll be portrayed as ‘ the woman who stopped the dad coming to the birth ‘

A birth is not a spectator event. It’s a medical procedure where you will be exposed, vulnerable and in pain. NO ONE has the right to be there without your explicit say so.

A birth partner should be that, a partner. Someone who supports you, holds hand, encourages you and speaks on your behalf if you are unable to. It’s not a theatre production.

Okay thankyou I just need to stay strong now. I’ve got about 9 weeks to stay busy and get organised for this little baby!