Does counselling help?

[SofiaJessica4]

Husband has ended it, we are separated. Have posted separately about it. Husband has agreed to counselling but in order to help me move on, not in order to fix our relationship.

Any experience of this? would it help me (or even 'us')?

Such a confusing time right now, I'm trying to decide tonight if I'm moving out of the family home and 80 miles towards my family and friends (i.e. my support network) or just staying put, but maybe lonely.

Thanks xx

If he doesn't even want to try then don't bother with joint couselling.
Have counselling on your own for now.
Then when the time is right have some mediation to get an amicable divorce.
Don't beg him. Don't plead.
Don't do the 'pick me dance'
I would suggest going back to your support network.
But not until you've had some legal advice!

Thank you. I suppose you are right. so, so hard to let go.

We-eellll. If it's an actual proper counsellor, then they should be able to validate your mututal decision to move on, and draw up agreements regarding co-parenting in future.

It sounds like he's fully out, so I'd suggest investing in therapy for you to help you move on from here in a healthy way for both you and your DC.

I’m just going to go alone and to therapy as he’s not interested. It’s just so sad. Xx