He attacked me and I left him

[wonderwoman2018]

It has been 2 months since my ex partner brutally attacked me. I left immediately, called the police and they have charged him. He is due in court in a couple of months and I will have to give evidence. I had been coping well, throwing myself into setting up a new home for me and the DCs but recently I have started to feel very overwhelmed by it all. I am tired, miserable and feel like I am struggling to cope with it all. Even trying to write this feels like hard work. Please tell me this will pass!

In answer to your question Amanda No I have not had an affair. I have been accused of it by him but no I haven't.

He sounds an animal OP. A mentally deranged animal. I hope you never have to have contact with him again.
Life will improve for you. Give time time.

@wonderwoman2018, i am sorry you had to go through this....... I feel for you.... Hope you get this animal out of your life forever

Thank you. I hope so too, but I just don't know how on earth we will ever manage to parent our dc normally. Social Services are involved but I don't have much faith in them considering they claimed that my ex came across as a really lovely guy when they spoke to him! I just need to get my motivation back as my get up and go has got up and gone. I feel a fool for putting up with his behaviour for so long, as I am in my 40's have a good job, great kids and have never been financially involved with him ever.

You need to take services of private investigator...... To deal with these cunning scums, you need to hire them...... They may provide you spy cameras where you could record his behaviour and show it to authorities

Amanda, you persist in arguing that there are occasions (i.e. being cuckolded) when brutally beating someone is understandable and/or excusable. Go and sit in a corner with a cup of tea and have a think. The only acceptable level of violence in a relationship is ZERO.

Well done OP on getting out and staying out.
Are you having counselling and have you had support from a domestic abuse organisation?
This all kicking in now is totally normal.
For the first couple of months you are running on adrenalin.
But that finally wears off. Then you get the real lows.
Like a big crash.
Counselling will help.
You could be suffering from PTSD so a trip to your GP may help as well.
Keep going.
You sound like a strong woman and you will get through this.

Amanda, I have already left him. I would be unable to video his behaviour towards me as he is on bail to stay away from me, plus I am the only target or his vile behaviour, to the rest of his world he is a wonderful man! Besides I have the pictures of the horrendous injuries he caused as evidence that he is an arsehole, what more evidence is needed? I do feel like I have hit a wall, I feel numb and just want to hide away from everyone at the moment. I have returned to work in the hope that it would help but I am really having trouble concentrating.

@wonderwoman2018 i feel for you because i have been the victim of violence by a female friend in college who used me for gaining her public attention by beating me and defaming me............ So i know the pain..... I am still struggling after 4 years and can't concentrate on my studies

I'm that you deleted Oldraver's post @MNHQ. Why did you do that?