OLD/sexting - is it wrong?

[NeonPinkNails]

I’m single and have been doing OLD for a while. Like most people I get guys wanting to indulge in a bit of sexy chat, sometimes exchanging photos or talking/FaceTiming etc as well. Often if I’m not interested in them I tell them where to go but if I find them interesting or attractive I have been known to go along with it. (I do date real people as well!)

I don’t share personal details, I only do it with anyone I feel comfortable with and I don’t do anything I don’t want to. It can be fun and I’m not kidding myself it’ll turn into anything more than that. Men do it and don’t care so I feel I’m just playing them at the same game.

But there’s a part of me that says it’s a bad idea...am I kidding myself that this is ok between 2 consenting adults and is it in fact just a bit grubby?

It's a personal choice if you want to do it that's up to you.

Yeah, it's totally up to you. But do bear in mind you have absolutely no idea what sort of person might now be in possession of photos of you. There's a far greater market out there for naked lady pictures than there is for some dude's dick pics - and most guys know it!

Just make sure you don't send naked photos showing your face. That's my rule.

And also do bare in mind that they are prob not single

I think the fact you say there's a part of you that say's it's a bad idea, is the key point here. It doesn't matter whether anyone else thinks it's ok or not, people will have varying opinions. What's important here is how you feel about it. If you felt 100% confident and happy about doing it then great, carry on. But if you have your doubts, then they can later turn into regrets, and then you can end up beating yourself up about it. The word grubby is quite a strong word to use about it too. Are you telling yourself you're playing the same game, to feel better about it? You are an adult, what you choose to do is entirely up to you and no one elses business. As long as you are happy with it. If you're not happy though, then don't do it. Don't feel pressurised into it.

Whatever anyone else may say, there's at least a part of you that thinks it's a bit grubby.

I'd listen to that small voice from within me, rather than what strangers on the internet think - even if I then decided to seek therapy to hunt out why part of me thought that.