Mature Student

[pinkslipper]

I am and I've got a bit of a thing for my tutor. He's younger than me and gorgeous. I'm married 3 children but over the last 5 years have done lots of studying and to be honest things have gotton a bit stale at home. I know its just a bit of a crush and will be forgotton about very soon, but I'm tempted to flirt as he has been flirting with me!!!
Have you been in this situation??? I feel stupid that a woman of my age feels like a teenager again

ride it out, love. Crushes soon go, but there are 4 other lives here. If you go down this road, it's a one way street. That may be a bit blunter than i intended it to be, but this is a situation that if you act on it, hurt is bound to follow: are things at home bad enough for that?

Don't go there!!

He is abusing his position if he is openly "flirting " with you.

Concentrate on your marriage if you can.Do you get out together?

I think all relationships have their "stale" phases,especially when you add children in the mix.

Try to work on the relationship with the father of your children if you can.

(I have been with dp 12 years and we have had many ups and downs,but I figure he is very important in my kids lives and our relationship is worth working at.I can see how it is flattering and so on and am probably an old fashioned girl at heart so someone may be on hand who is less of a "fuddy duddy )

Been married for 24 years husband has been unfaithful in the past but that is forgotton. He doesnt brush hes teeth despite telling him arguing etc he gets thrush and then doesnt use the cream and then of course I get it...and have told him loads about that too.
I suppose I have changed dramatically over the last five years both personally and professionally.
Wrinkly, he tutor was subtle there was only myself and my friend in the class at the time, and to be frank I want to be abused is that soo bad??

Re read the posting this morning and I guess what I'm saying is that things are not that good at home and this is both our faults.
This fantacy of a younger man is very provocative after years of accepting at times very distant marrige.

Is it because I'm getting old??? This eye candy is phewww. Tonight is our last lesson this term...what if he asks me out??

Pink slipper, how much younger is he, how old are you, midlife crisis??? (must say i feel abit jealous it sounds exciting to be honest)

Pink slipper, how much younger is he, how old are you, midlife crisis??? (must say i feel abit jealous it sounds exciting to be honest)

pinkslipper, you list problens with your husband, but that does not make it alright to go behind his back. If you are having problems in the marriage you need to deal with them.

Your right cazee of course I couldn't justify it. So I wont, and yes it is very exciting hippy! That I am getting attention from a younger man about 10yrs younger fit athletic, confident self assured. (does he need his eyes tested? I'm no spring chicken)
So yes if he asks me for a drink, then I'm going!!!!!
(I want to live! but will I be able to live with the consequence)

Just read another thread and hadnt thought about it but I'm deffo buying condoms tonigh too!!! (will have to hide them in the car!)

He has abused his position of trust by acting this way with a student i.e yourself. He cannot and should not be acting on impulses with students; it could cost him his job for oen thing.

I cannot work you out - on one hand you're saying it cannot be justified but in the next sentence you're going to hide condoms in your car!.

There are indeed four other lives here that need consideration. What are your three children going to think if you potentially chuck in your marriage for a short lived fling to make you somehow feel better about yourself?. They will feel very hurt not just to say disappointed in you. They could lose all their respect for you.

Affairs are symptomatic of problems in the relationship, not the cause. If you want to be used and abused then it just shows that you have no self respect for your own self let alone your children.

Pinkslipper.

Re your comment:-

"Husband has been unfaithful in the past but that is forgotton".

I don't personally think you've forgotton completely. Besides which two wrongs do not make a right. Now you're planning on doing the same to him as he did to you.

The ones who are really caught in the middle here are your children and they are the ones I really feel sorry for.

Attila, so dont buy condoms.... that is what someone who doesnt respect themselves or others does i.e sleeps around unprotedted!and I dont intend to involve the children in my sex life IF IT HAPPENS!!!!! [GRIN] LOL

You are both deliberately and wilfully missing the point and you know very well what I am trying to say.

Your husband was previously unfaithful but you're still together - is this payback time now for you now that things are a bit stale at home and you're finding yourself?.

I am just trying to stop you from making a huge mistake but its your life and ultimately you will pay for your error of judgment if you go ahead.

what happens if you cannot separate your children from your sexlife? Life isn't always that easy to compartmentalise. what is yoru worst case scenario?

Well u will be pleased 2 know he was a professional, ofcourse there was no flirting or shaninanagins of any kind!
phew that was a close shave.

Maybe its all in your head?

if you h has been unfaithful in the past surely you can remember the pain it caused?? How can you contemplate it?

If you are not happy in your marriage then end it first then go out on the pull